Beyond Eat, Pray, Love and Big Magic, Liz Gilbert models authenticity and transparency.
On September 7, 2016, at 8:03 a.m., using the power of social media (Facebook to be exact), another angel of authenticity gained her wings… her name is Elizabeth Gilbert. Yes, that one. The thought-provoking author of "Eat, Pray, Love" and "Big Magic" fame.
No, she didn’t release another New York Times Best-Seller. This time, she did her best sales job by coming out. Yes, that in love with someone of the same-sex type of coming out. It was the kind of big leap that creates big magic when people step into their truth. And, she did it with grace.
In her own words, the news of her best friend Rayya Elias’s cancer "opened up a trap door I didn’t even know was there and my entire existence fell straight through that door." In that moment, Elizabeth became raptured in the light of what it means to find yourself and your person, and to step boldly out into your truth.
Many would argue that coming out is a confused state of sexual identity, a form of lambasting the holy word, or simply a rebellious act of sexual deviance.
Yet, as Elizabeth described in her own coming out account on Facebook, there are many layers of transparency that follow ones coming out and taking the stand to live in their nuggets of truth. Here are 4 quotes of wisdom from her coming out:
1. "Coming out has a way of clearing out everything that is not real."
As I read those words, I realized, once again, my sister in LGBTQ arms, Elizabeth was doling out some nuggets of truth, that regardless of sexual orientation, allows everyone to be confident, be unique, be you! When you speak and live your truth, everything else that is not real has no room in your life.
2. "Death — or the prospect of death — has a way of clearing away everything that is not real…"
Stand in that, sit with it, hold that statement and ask yourself, "If I were going to die tomorrow, what truth would I finally allow to come to life, if even only for the next 24 hours?"
What we hide the most is often the truth that will set us free, so why wait until it’s too late to live your truth?
3. "…the thing about truth: Once you see it, you cannot unsee it."
Regardless of how you wear your blinders, or don the blinders of others expectations, the truth of who you are, what you desire, and the way you wish to show up in the world, is your truth.
Sure, you can try to hide it like a stolen cookie shoved in your mouth from the cookie jar, but the moment you are confronted about that truth, is the moment you make the choice to continue to hide it or the choice to reveal it.
It is in the choice that you step into your power to consciously ask yourself, "Is it more painful to hide the truth, or live the truth?" True empowerment comes from living your truth!
4. "The truth has legs; it always stands. When everything else in the room has blown up or dissolved away, the only thing left standing will always be the truth. Since that’s where you’re gonna end up anyway, you might as well just start there."
Elizabeth shared this mantra from her person, Rayya.
When coming out, coming clean, coming to the crux of the matter, the only place we all end up, is at the truth. Sure, you can end up in the lie, but eventually, most of our lies that we tell ourselves or tell others, still lead back to the truth, so why not just start there.
And that’s what Elizabeth did, which is awesome modeling for the rest of us. As the saying goes, "The truth shall set you free!"
Sanity, transparency, integrity, and openness are the reasons people come out to live their truth.
Regardless of the truth that people come to live, the drive to come clean often emanates from their core values that are out of alignment.
If you take the time to read Elizabeth’s entire post on Facebook, you will see it is rich with a deep-seeded desire to come back into alignment with her true values… core values …values that got overshadowed by false truths of who she thought she was meant to be.
And as for the "Big Magic" of this moment? Well, it’s all about love and allowing love to prevail — regardless of how that love looks. In the last sentence of her Facebook post, Elizabeth writes, "…truth is the force that guides us to where we need to be in life, but love is the power that heals us once we arrive there."
Let’s all eat, pray, and love truth so that the big magic of being confident, being unique, and being ourselves can prevail.
For the full version of Elizabeth’s Facebook post Click Here and scroll to the post dated September 7, 8:03 a.m.
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