An Insider's Guide To Gay Dating

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Nine non-typical ways to meet gay men.

6. Show your true colors. You don't have to go shopping, hit the theater or hang at the bar to find your Mr. Right. If you like vintage cars, playing poker, gambling, watching sports or gardening, put yourself out there in those environments. Believe it or not, the more you show up and make yourself available in these "not so traditional gay circles," the more likely you are to meet someone who put themselves out there in the same not so traditional way and suddenly you'll be asking "Are you gay?" ... well, maybe not that directly, but you get the idea.

7. Explore the friendly skies. Without being stereotypical, if your gaydar goes off about the flight attendant on your cross-country flight from Los Angeles to New York, strike up a conversation with him. It doesn't mean your flirting, unless he's worth the flirt. Get to know him without holding up his ability to take care of the drunk and obnoxious dude in seat 17A.

"Where ya from?" "What do you like to do back in Reno?" "How do you meet guys when you're always up in the air?" Getting to know people in different industries and from other parts of the country can inspire you to stretch and look in places you've never thought of looking before when trying to find guys in your own backyard.

8. Be classy. Without sounding superficial or overly stereotypical, a lot of gay men have class. However, the real question is, how many gay men might you meet at a cooking class, painting class or woodworking class? You never know until you venture out.

9. Take to the arts. Whether you enjoy the arts, participate in the arts or just buy art, there's a lot to be said for finding what you want in the art scene. Volunteer as a docent at a museum. Offer to work at an artist's gallery for their bigger openings and events. Help staff a large art festival. Regardless of how you do it, enjoy the art and the art of finding your potential next date in the art world.

Regardless of how you prowl for the man of your dreams, what's important is that you try something new. Break out of the old molds, take a walk on the other side of the street, step into a neighborhood not known for it's density of "gay population" and see who might show his handsome face. You just never know.

Rick Clemons, The Coming Out Coach
Certified Professional Coach (CPC), Energy Leader Index, Master Practioner (ELI-MP), International Coach Federation, Associate Certified Coach (ACC)

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Rick is a straight-forward, compassionate, insightful, challenging, mentor, guide, and Certified Professional Coach who's been featured on The Ricki Lake Show, and is a highly sought after radio show personality, blogger, author, and faculty member of Sex Coach U. His loving, challenging, gentle, and inspiring approach ignites a fire in clients, helping them get through the darkest moments of life and come out the other side, kicking butt, and being authentically themselves.

Rick thrives, working with individuals, and those in their inner circle, as they embark on the journey out of the closet and beyond. He specializes in helping people build confidence, live their passion while loving their work, and live authentically. Authenticity isn't just a word he throws around lightly. It's the backbone of his practice and the manner in which he personnally strives to live each and every day of his own life.

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