6. Show your true colors. You don't have to go shopping, hit the theater or hang at the bar to find your Mr. Right. If you like vintage cars, playing poker, gambling, watching sports or gardening, put yourself out there in those environments. Believe it or not, the more you show up and make yourself available in these "not so traditional gay circles," the more likely you are to meet someone who put themselves out there in the same not so traditional way and suddenly you'll be asking "Are you gay?" ... well, maybe not that directly, but you get the idea.
7. Explore the friendly skies. Without being stereotypical, if your gaydar goes off about the flight attendant on your cross-country flight from Los Angeles to New York, strike up a conversation with him. It doesn't mean your flirting, unless he's worth the flirt. Get to know him without holding up his ability to take care of the drunk and obnoxious dude in seat 17A.
"Where ya from?" "What do you like to do back in Reno?" "How do you meet guys when you're always up in the air?" Getting to know people in different industries and from other parts of the country can inspire you to stretch and look in places you've never thought of looking before when trying to find guys in your own backyard.
8. Be classy. Without sounding superficial or overly stereotypical, a lot of gay men have class. However, the real question is, how many gay men might you meet at a cooking class, painting class or woodworking class? You never know until you venture out.
9. Take to the arts. Whether you enjoy the arts, participate in the arts or just buy art, there's a lot to be said for finding what you want in the art scene. Volunteer as a docent at a museum. Offer to work at an artist's gallery for their bigger openings and events. Help staff a large art festival. Regardless of how you do it, enjoy the art and the art of finding your potential next date in the art world.
Regardless of how you prowl for the man of your dreams, what's important is that you try something new. Break out of the old molds, take a walk on the other side of the street, step into a neighborhood not known for it's density of "gay population" and see who might show his handsome face. You just never know.
Rick Clemons is a Certified Professional Coach who's been featured on The Ricki Lake Show, and is a highly sought after radio show guest, blogger, author, and Sex Coach U Faculty Member, who lovingly addresses the many facets of Coming Out for all who are touched by this Journey. Rick also hosted his own radio show, The Coming Out Lounge, and has been an expert guest on numerous other radio shows, and in print on national blogs.
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