I admit it: I'm a gay man. I like sex and I've had gay sex (quite a bit of it). I've even had straight sex. And, I'm here to share 5 Secrets You Can Learn From Gay Men To Knock Your Sexual Confidence Out Of The Park! Of course, you don't have to be gay, a man or even interested in having gay sex to understand anything I'm about to share with you.
From my perspective as a gay man, we don't have all the answers about sex just because we supposedly have so much of it. That's a stereotype that we gay men just seem to fashionably wear (provided it matches our Gucci loafers). Seriously though, contrary to popular belief, not all gay men are having one-night stands with every gay guy that pops in to our peripheral vision.
So what about the straight, married couple Jim and Susie who live at the end of the cul de sac with Fido and their 2.5 kids? (Please explain to me how you can have ".5" of a kid?) They're curious, but lacking in confidence. They might want to take notes from their gay neighbors, which leads me to sharing the below secrets to boosting your sexual confidence.
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1. Exploration builds confidence. If you never learned how to ride a bike, how confident are you in riding one? If you shied away from learning new dance moves, how are you ever going to be anything but a wallflower at the party? Get the point? If you don't explore and satisfy your sexual curiosities, then you'll never build the confidence to express your desires: "I want to tie you up in the lounge chair by the pool in plain view of the neighbors."
2. Size matters. Yes, there are size queens whether you're a gay man, straight woman, lesbian or straight man. We all desire a certain size of "something" from our sexual and intimate relationships. Gay men take it one step further. We judge ourselves by the size of our belief in ourselves. Why else do we strive for the best clothes or become gym bunnies to achieve outrageously chiseled bodies? The size of our confidence is in direct proportion to the size of our belief that we are sexual goliaths in bed!
3. Masculinity and femininity are not mutually exclusive. This is the truth and if you can't grasp it, then you need to go back to health class. Remember X and Y-chromosomes? We all have them. The difference is, we gay men let them coexist in the condos of our human forms. Even the most butch, leather-clad gay man, allows his femininity to take center stage once the lights go down, the chaps come off and he utters to his lover, "Just take me!"
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The key here is to realize that there is a sexual spectrum fluid in all of us. We all float between our gender identity (what we feel in our mind) and our gender expression (how we dress, act and speak), regardless of our gender identity (what's between our legs) and our sexual orientation (which gender we are attracted to physically and emotionally). Keep reading ...
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