Perks of Being A Voyeur

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Perks of Being A Voyeur
Sex and intimacy doesn’t necessarily require participation. And that's ok!
  • I fantasize! Yes I do and I make no bones about it. It’s one of the ways I voyeuristically allow myself to go places that I might not go if given the true opportunity.
     
  • I encourage my sexual partners to perform and let me just watch. Of course now, I only do that with my partner. By performing, I mean letting them do whatever feels comfortable for themselves...while I watch. Honestly, you can’t be raring to go all the time, otherwise, why would there be so many erectile dysfunction ads during prime-time news! My solution, rather than popping a pill, is to watch my partner be in pure pleasure and ecstasy without me having to get off. It’s a turn on that I freely admit! Sorry, probably, TMI!
     
  • I like watching gay men in real life. That doesn’t mean I’m hitting the sex party circuit or bathhouses. It just means I like being in the company of gay men, watching them be intimate and letting that fill my cup of sexual energy to the brim. There’s something about two men sharing a touch on a leg, a stolen glance, or a simple finger stroke right at the nape of the neck, that fills my sexual energy cup with desire. It’s even better when I know they haven’t seen me watching them. That’s when my voyeur truly gets a stir in my 2xist trunks.
     
  • I watch porn, read porn, and am not ashamed to admit it. Why? For me, porn doesn’t mean I’m not satisfied. It means I am experiencing my sexual self to it’s fullest. I know I’m a sexual being and that in order to fully be in that energy of myself I need to embrace it, not deny it. For me reading porn, even soft porn like 50 Shades of Grey, enables my libido to stay active without putting anyone at risk. Plus, it satisfies my voyeuristic inner diva.

While voyeurism may be frowned upon by a sexually pent up world, I find it liberating. In fact, I always find it amusing when a straight man gets his Jockey’s in a bunch when I talk about this in my sexuality talks. My response to him is, “Have you ever looked at a good looking woman?” The usual response is, “Yes.” With a Cheshire grin, I respond, “Welcome to the brotherhood of voyeurs!”

Rick Clemons, The Coming Out Coach
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Rick is a straight-forward, compassionate, insightful, challenging, mentor, guide, and Certified Professional Coach who's been featured on The Ricki Lake Show, and is a highly sought after radio show personality, blogger, author, and faculty member of Sex Coach U. His loving, challenging, gentle, and inspiring approach ignites a fire in clients, helping them get through the darkest moments of life and come out the other side, kicking butt, and being authentically themselves.

Rick thrives, working with individuals, and those in their inner circle, as they embark on the journey out of the closet and beyond. He specializes in helping people build confidence, live their passion while loving their work, and live authentically. Authenticity isn't just a word he throws around lightly. It's the backbone of his practice and the manner in which he personnally strives to live each and every day of his own life.

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