Perks of Being A Voyeur

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Perks of Being A Voyeur
Sex and intimacy doesn’t necessarily require participation. And that's ok!

I love sex. I don’t deny it. I have enjoyed sex from a very young age and I find it healthy to have sex. Now before you gasp and pass judgment on the “very young age” comment, I’m referring to my voyeuristic child views of sex and intimacy. I don’t know if as a child I was more in tune with my sexuality, or if it was because I was going through my pre-pubescent years during the late 60’s and early 70’s. You know, the era of free-love. Guys walking around with their shirts unbuttoned exposing their happy trails. Gals with butt cheeks hanging out of their hot pants. And of course, let’s not forget the occasional streaker letting everything hang out in public.

Those days kept my mind active and my developing libido in over drive. They also, validated I was more attracted to men than to women, I really didn’t know what to do with the butterflies in my stomach nor the pole jutting from my crotch at that age. Nonetheless, I learned something that continues to enhance my sexual and intimate experiences today. To be a voyeur is as satisfying as being an active participant. Now, hold your horses and put that phone down. No need to call the authorities and send them after me for stalking, or looking in windows. I’m a far cry from that kind of creepy, crawly, voyeurism. What I’m referring to is an ability to tap into your imagination, push your will power into admiration, and allow yourself not to be the focus of the climax.

I know, I am soooo not sounding like the stereotypical gay man right now. Well shame on you for placing that stereotypical burden on me. I never said I was stereotypical. In fact, I pride myself on being exquisitely eccentric in my execution of my gayness and my sexuality. I like it that I can be a wham bam thank you sir one day, and then a demure little cockette flirt that teases you into climax the next. For me, sex and intimacy should be a two way street, a one-way street, and a detour from the expected to keep the love alive and the man interested. So how do I do this?

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