The after math of “coming out” doesn’t diminish simply because you’ve got celebrity in your DNA!
Yin & Yang Of "Screw You" and "Forgive You." Forgiveness, usually saunters into to play a sustaining role in these types of dramas, right out the gate. Try, try, try, its futile attempts to be heard are overshadowed by the beating pulse of “SCREW YOU!” Rare is the occasion, at least in the initial firestorm, that any cry for absolution can be heard. Acutely focused on revenge, emotions of the heart over power logic, until logic is given a chance to make the case that forgiveness empowers the release so that healing can occur. While there is no “golden rule” how to balance this duality, Joe should anticipate, months and years before a cloak of forgiveness could come his way.
What’s next? Not to be confused with “When’s the other shoe going to drop?” mentality, often all the players on the field will be asking, “What’s next for me, for us?” Major life transitions lead to “Y’s” in the road that often have never been traversed. Whether you’re the Jessica, Ashlee, or Tina being left in the wake of the aftermath, or the Joe who appears to be skipping off to live his happy, happy, gay life, know this. No one gets through divorce, death, career transitions, births, or a spouse coming out of the closet without feeling and wondering, “What’s next, and can I truly survive this?” If you’re deep in this feeling then ask this one question, “If I knew what was next, what would I be feeling?” Could be that you’d feel more stress, angst, and uncertainty. On the other hand you might feel freed, optimistic, and happier. No matter how the question gets answered, simply letting yourself come to the answer rather than forcing it, will take some of the stress off your shoulders.
Given the fact that this story will soon fade into the hither and yon of the past, the one thing to be considered for all concerned, is how soon can they let the story fade into their past so they can be fully in their new present? How about you? What are you still holding onto from your past relationship(s) that you need to let slip into the past rather than letting it continue to play as a re-run in your life?
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Rick Clemons is a Certified Professional Coach who's been featured on The Ricki Lake Show, and is a highly sought after radio show guest, blogger, author, and Sex Coach U Faculty member, who lovingly addresses the many facets of Coming Out for all who are touched by this Journey. Rick also hosts his own radio show, The Coming Out Lounge.
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