The after math of “coming out” doesn’t diminish simply because you’ve got celebrity in your DNA!
Yin & Yang Of "Screw You" and "Forgive You." Forgiveness, usually saunters into to play a sustaining role in these types of dramas, right out the gate. Try, try, try, its futile attempts to be heard are overshadowed by the beating pulse of “SCREW YOU!” Rare is the occasion, at least in the initial firestorm, that any cry for absolution can be heard. Acutely focused on revenge, emotions of the heart over power logic, until logic is given a chance to make the case that forgiveness empowers the release so that healing can occur. While there is no “golden rule” how to balance this duality, Joe should anticipate, months and years before a cloak of forgiveness could come his way.
What’s next? Not to be confused with “When’s the other shoe going to drop?” mentality, often all the players on the field will be asking, “What’s next for me, for us?” Major life transitions lead to “Y’s” in the road that often have never been traversed. Whether you’re the Jessica, Ashlee, or Tina being left in the wake of the aftermath, or the Joe who appears to be skipping off to live his happy, happy, gay life, know this. No one gets through divorce, death, career transitions, births, or a spouse coming out of the closet without feeling and wondering, “What’s next, and can I truly survive this?” If you’re deep in this feeling then ask this one question, “If I knew what was next, what would I be feeling?” Could be that you’d feel more stress, angst, and uncertainty. On the other hand you might feel freed, optimistic, and happier. No matter how the question gets answered, simply letting yourself come to the answer rather than forcing it, will take some of the stress off your shoulders.
Given the fact that this story will soon fade into the hither and yon of the past, the one thing to be considered for all concerned, is how soon can they let the story fade into their past so they can be fully in their new present? How about you? What are you still holding onto from your past relationship(s) that you need to let slip into the past rather than letting it continue to play as a re-run in your life?
Ready to release your anger and frustration? Need help mastering your own "coming out journey?" Whether you're the individual "coming out" or the someone facing the reality that the person you thought you knew just "came out," there's powerful, purposeful ways to take the energy and thrive! CLICK HERE for a complimentary consultation today and learn how "coming out" can be a powerful journey into a better tomorrow!
Rick Clemons, The Gay Man's Life Coach & The Coming Out Coach
Rick is a straight-forward, compassionate, insightful, challenging, mentor, guide, and Certified Professional Coach who's been featured on The Ricki Lake Show, and is a highly sought after radio show personality, blogger, author, and faculty member of Sex Coach U. His loving, challenging, gentle, and inspiring approach ignites a fire in clients, helping them get through the darkest moments of life and come out the other side, kicking butt, and being authentically themselves.
Rick thrives, working with individuals, and those in their inner circle, as they embark on the journey out of the closet and beyond. He specializes in helping people build confidence, uncover their deepest passions, and live their life's purpose. Authenticity isn't just a word he throws around lightly. It's the backbone of his practice and the manner in which he personnally strives to live each and every day of his own life.
The best present you've ever given yourself was coming out, so don't let any Scrooge's put a "bah humbug" on your first holiday out of the closet. Instead, might I suggest: "Gay bells ring, are you listening?" ...OK maybe that's not quite the holiday spirit you were expecting, but hello!, it's your first gay holiday ... Read more
You know you want it. Yes, you, Mr. Gay Guy! You're dreaming of success, whatever success means to you. However, those crazy, bitchy voices echo in your head:
You're not talented
You're unable to play the game
You're living a pipe dream
You're going to lose good friends if you become ... Read more
One of the hardest aspects of coming out of the closet is being in relationships. I recently received this inquiry from one of my blog followers here at YourTango.com:
"I loved your article Top 10 Gay Relationship Mistakes That Keep You From Your Man. But how do I deal with my partner's single friends inviting him to gay pride trips/events that ... Read more