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No Re-Runs For Joe Simpson!

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No Re-Runs For Joe Simpson!
The after math of “coming out” doesn’t diminish simply because you’ve got celebrity in your DNA!

Three plus weeks and counting, and the rumors and truths continue to fly across the media as to where, when, why, what, and how Joe Simpson, Manager and Father of Jessica Simpson, “came out of the closet.” All mud slinging aside, the fact remains he’s now out, had a “lover” on the side, and it appears was being extorted for money to keep things hush, hush. That’s what we know, so to speak.

On the flip side, we can only assume that Jessica, sister Ashlee, and mom Tina, have probably about had it up to their eyeballs in alligators with speculations, and constant privacy invasions, as the world tunes in to get to the real “coming out” story. To that I say, “How would you like your life being examined under the proverbial media microscope?” Probably about as much as you’d like to be going in for a colonoscopy! Give the Simpsons some privacy and let the ratings show, that Joe Simpson has been cancelled from this family dynamic, as it was known. In fact, let’s just remove the “celebrity” from their family tree and examine, what anyone in this situation is dealing with after the tornado of truth has thrown everything asunder.

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On The Other Side Of The Closet Lies...

  • Anger, resentment, and lack of trust. Regardless of whether your spouse/dad just came out of the closet, or if your partner cheated on you, it would be surprising if you didn’t feel angry, resentful, and hell bent on never trusting anyone again. Un-tethered from the constraints of “minding your emotions,” these reactions leap out blatantly and subtly depending on the demeanor of the individual experiencing them. No one persons reaction will be identical, but know, that in this moment, Jessica, Ashlee, and Tina have been doing an intimate tap dance in these emotional states for a few weeks and the reprieve will only come when they’re ready to release.
     
  • Self-doubt and Not Good Enough. Jessica, check. Ashlee, check. Tina, check. Joe, check. Wait. Joe? Why should we give him any latitude to feel anything other than like the dog poop that your neighbor forgot clean off the sidewalk? Let him mire in guilt, shame, and rot in a heap of RuPal’s cast away garments. Make him out to be the villain, but in reality, no one in the inner circle of a family torn apart by “coming out” or a partner’s infidelity can escape the feelings of self-doubt and “I’m not good enough.”

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Rick Clemons, The Gay Man's Life Coach & The Coming Out Coach

Rick is a straight-forward, compassionate, insightful, challenging, mentor, guide, and Certified Professional Coach who's been featured on The Ricki Lake Show, and is a highly sought after radio show personality, blogger, author, and faculty member of Sex Coach U. His loving, challenging, gentle, and inspiring approach ignites a fire in clients, helping them get through the darkest moments of life and come out the other side, kicking butt, and being authentically themselves.

Rick thrives, working with individuals, and those in their inner circle, as they embark on the journey out of the closet and beyond. He specializes in helping people build confidence, uncover their deepest passions, and live their life's purpose. Authenticity isn't just a word he throws around lightly. It's the backbone of his practice and the manner in which he personnally strives to live each and every day of his own life.

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