5 Tips For Guys Who Just Came Out Of The Closet

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5 Tips For Guys Who Just Came Out Of The Closet [EXPERT]
If you recently opened up about being gay, you might wonder, 'What's next?' Rick Clemons can help.

3. Stay present. Don't dwell in the past or jump to the future. Not to go all Eckhart Tolle on you, but the man knows his stuff when it comes to "back peddling and future focus." It takes way too much energy to worry about regrets or what the future might bring. Stay in your present state of "Here I am, a gay man/lesbian woman/etc, so let's see how this glove fits and then think what's next."

4. Relax. Just because they're with you doesn't mean they're with ya! Whether the folks took the news well that you're playing Adam and Steve rather than Adam and Eve, or Grandma Gert is passed out on the floor, know this one truth: It takes time and it does get better. The initial reaction may be embracing or not, but as they say on Who Wants To Be A Millionaire, "Is that your final answer?" In some cases yes, in others no. Give it space and time to grow beyond the moment and the day for everyone to get accustomed to where you haven't gone before. And, again this applies to any major life announcement.

5. Take nothing personally. Yes, I stole this from Don Miguel Ruiz and the Four Agreements and it was damn worth stealing. If you continue to take everything personally, then you're right back in the proverbial closet. Free yourself, shimmy into your new way of being and let what others will be, will be. After all, did you really stress, fret and worry over "coming out" all that time just to be shoved back into what everyone else thought you should be? 

Here's the icing on the cake, the sugar coating on the cookie, the burger to go with that shake. Regardless of what closet door you may have busted through today, "coming out" is a human experience and one we all can take pride in. We LGBT individuals just have a way of turning every day into a celebration! It's ok, you can turn green with envy. Simply know this:

The door swings both ways. One-way leads to you being truly you, the other leads to you pretending to be something your not. Which do you choose not only today, but also everyday of your lovely life in this human experience?

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Rick Clemons, The Gay Man's Life Coach & The Coming Out Coach

Rick is a straight-forward, compassionate, insightful, challenging, mentor, guide, and Certified Professional Coach who's been featured on The Ricki Lake Show, and is a highly sought after radio show personality, blogger, author, and faculty member of Sex Coach U. His loving, challenging, gentle, and inspiring approach ignites a fire in clients, helping them get through the darkest moments of life and come out the other side, kicking butt, and being authentically themselves.

Rick thrives, working with individuals, and those in their inner circle, as they embark on the journey out of the closet and beyond. He specializes in helping people build confidence, live their passion while loving their work, and live authentically. Authenticity isn't just a word he throws around lightly. It's the backbone of his practice and the manner in which he personnally strives to live each and every day of his own life.

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