Which Public Restroom Should A Transgender Child Use?

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I can't help but wonder how much time, effort and money is being spent on this incident that would be better spent paying for teachers' salaries, purchasing much needed classroom supplies and implementing diversity and tolerance programs in schools. Now, My stance may be coming from a soap box. Still, I have a secret to share. No, I am not transgender, nor are either of my daughters or my partner. My secret is that I've used a gender neutral restroom — and survived!

I experienced "gender neutral bathrooms" for the second time in my life just recently. The first time was a year ago at the GLAAD Awards in Los Angeles. This time, it was at the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, Creating Change Conference in Atlanta. Nearly every restroom in the public spaces at the Atlanta Downtown Hilton were temporarily converted to "Gender Neutral" restrooms to accommodate the diversity of the attendees — gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer, intersex, ally, etc.!

Of course, as a gay man, I wasn't quite sure how I felt about walking into a restroom where my private parts would be exposed at a urinal where a female or transgender could see ... not because I'm ashamed of my body, but because, wel, I'd never really thought about it much before. But once I allowed myself to "come out of my shell" and do what comes naturally, I was just fine. After all, I'm just like you and Coy — a collaboration of muscle, cells, veins, blood and DNA.

Stripped down to our barest human particles — skin, hair, eyes, teeth, penises, vaginas and breasts — we're simply human beings. The irony is, we as human beings have created monsters out of sex, sexuality and the human form. This sort of behavior has now led to asking transgendered first graders like Coy not only to hide her human form and her gender identity, but also to use a bathroom that doesn't make her feel comfortable. That'sthe bare naked truth, and it stinks about as much as a Port-A-Potty after the Coachella Music Festival.

Rick Clemons, The Coming Out Coach
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Rick thrives, working with individuals, and those in their inner circle, as they embark on the journey out of the closet and beyond. He specializes in helping people build confidence, live their passion while loving their work, and live authentically. Authenticity isn't just a word he throws around lightly. It's the backbone of his practice and the manner in which he personnally strives to live each and every day of his own life.

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