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Is Mardi Gras A Cover Up? [EXPERT]

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There might just be more of a cover up at Mardi Gras than just the masks!
If you think you're not acting gay, think again. It's Mardi Gras...don't be scared!

Mardi Gras. It's a once a year celebration to: Party like a rock star...Wear the mask of your alter ego...Drop your drawers and flash your breasts...Drink like a fish...And act a little gay!

Then poof! The magic wand of confession wipes it all away and your commitment to behave is deepened by giving up something for Lent. That's just my non-catholic view of what happens over the next few days. Not trying to cause trouble so please don't take offense...at least not yet!

Here's the real thought provoking question; "Why is this kind of debauchery and indulgent behavior more acceptable than being gay?" After all, many of society's stalwart beliefs about homosexuality are reflected in the activities of Mardi Gras. Advice: My Son Just Came Out Of The Closet VIDEO

Party Like Rock Stars: The gay culture gets shoe boxed into this assumption that we all do drugs and party at circuit parties half naked. Honestly, yes, there is a sub-set within the gay culture that fits that mold. But let's not forget, it exists outside of the gay culture too—it just doesn't get exploited or looked down upon like in the gay culture.

Strike 1: If you party like a rock star and do drugs at Mardi Gras, you're now distant cousins to the "party like a rock star, do drugs gay culture." You just don't dress as fabulous!

Donning Your Alter Ego: Masks are a driving force at Mardi Gras. Feathers, gems, velvet, leather....no matter the color or the material, masks reflect a part of you and your alter ego. Hello! What took you all so long to figure out that dressing up and wearing masks was liberating and fun? Beads & Breasts: Mardi Gras In The Toad Kingdom EXPERT

Strike 2: You're way behind the eight ball if you don't realize this tradition of masks and costumes is simply a way to:

  • Hide behind your truth
  • Step into the lime light without really being seen
  • Explore other aspects of yourself without any commitment

Hmmm?? Sounds like your acting kind of gay to me! You're using Mardi Gras as a platform to hide behind some mask to shield your truth, afraid to be who you are and taking little journey's into your true self without having to live it the other 364 days of the year. It's the same process we gays go through, until we "come out of the closet" once and for all!

Dropping Drawers, Flashing Breasts: Can you say "Sexual Evolution?" Look how far you've come. Willing to let your Willie fly from your button fly's and your breasts break loose from the constraints of your Victoria’s Secret push-up...all in the name of beads, beads, beads. Evolved or just sexually pushing the limits? Holla! You're pushing the sexual limits just like "gay men." Gasp! Not you! Or maybe it is you? Throw Me Some Beads! Why Do Women Flash At Mardi Gras? EXPERT

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