Kid In A Candy Store...It's Ok, You're On Track!

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Kid In A Candy Store...It's Ok, You're On Track!
You’re not alone if you feel like a kid in a candy store after coming out of the closet!

Whether you have a sweet tooth or not, there’s a delicious stimulation of the senses that occurs when you live your truth. Hard as it may seem to believe or understand, living as your “true self” is like a delicious taste of Godiva chocolate. Intense flavor, rich sensual stimulation, deep seeded satisfaction...and yes I am still talking about the chocolate. However, coming out and into your truth has a similar effect, even though at times you may ask yourself “Where’s the sweetness in this journey?”

In its purest sense, “coming out,” is a sweet surrender. It’s a magical moment when letting go and allowing yourself to fall into the magic of the moment, you discover the sweetness of you at your core. Raw, truthful, vulnerability, all mixing together in a tantalizing essence of you. Beckoned by this natural high, you suddenly (at least most gay men and a lot of lesbians) find yourself feeling like a kid in a candy story. Yep, Willy Wonka has nothing on you in this moment. The plethora of available treats in the candy store, “outside of the closet” is now bombarding you. Sweet tooth beware, if you try all the treats, you just might end up sick to your stomach...or not!

Taste, trick, and treat...it’s all good...within reason!
Dialing into my own personal experience, as well as observing what clients who are just “coming out” experience, the “kid in the candy store mentality” is going to happen, even to the best of you. It’s a rare individual that is immune from thoughts of “He’s one Hot Tamale,” or “My, my isn’t she a delicious little lump of vanilla cream!” It happens to the best of us. So many men/women. So little time to think rationally. Tick tock, the hands of time are flying by and you find yourself consuming people right and left.

Shackled by the handcuffs of untruth, the newbie bursts out of the closet doors and BAM, into a giant pool of delicious, multi-flavored Jelly Belly’s of relationships, dating, relationships, dating, relationships, date! Men, men, men and women, women, women – every size, flavor, and style for the sampling. Overwhelm set’s in and the logical head goes asunder, but it doesn’t have to.

Taste – Sample all the flavors and simply realize you are trying to discover what tastes right to you. Relish the flavors, and take your time. After all, no one ever taught you “how to date some one of the same sex,” so relish in the smorgasbord of “gay and lesbian dating!”

Trick – If so inclined, TRICK IT UP! Doesn’t necessarily mean you’re a slut, a tramp, or a cum n’ dump sort of guy/gal! Oh contraire! CONSCIOUSLY TRICKING IT UP is a whole different means sampling of the wares than SUB-CONSCIOUSLY TRICKING IT UP. Awake and aware tricking it up is simply giving yourself healthy permission to have an adult romp in the hay!

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Rick Clemons, The Gay Man's Life Coach & The Coming Out Coach

Rick is a straight-forward, compassionate, insightful, challenging, mentor, guide, and Certified Professional Coach who's been featured on The Ricki Lake Show, and is a highly sought after radio show personality, blogger, author, and faculty member of Sex Coach U. His loving, challenging, gentle, and inspiring approach ignites a fire in clients, helping them get through the darkest moments of life and come out the other side, kicking butt, and being authentically themselves.

Rick thrives, working with individuals, and those in their inner circle, as they embark on the journey out of the closet and beyond. He specializes in helping people build confidence, live their passion while loving their work, and live authentically. Authenticity isn't just a word he throws around lightly. It's the backbone of his practice and the manner in which he personnally strives to live each and every day of his own life.

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