Dear Grandpa: A Letter About Acceptance, Faith & Love


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In all honesty, the thing I miss most is the pride that lit up your eyes every time you were with your family. Even though we have no blood ties, since Mom and her brother were adopted, it never stopped you from loving her, or any of us, as if we were your own. I don't know if you know this, but in the gay community, pride is a symbol of strength, acceptance, and unconditional love. For those of us who come out of the closet, pride stands as a badge of honor symbolizing our own ability to tap into our deepest strength, accepting, and unconditionally loving ourselves for who we are — no judgment. Ironically, as I think about where I am in my life, helping people from all walks of life come out and accept themselves for who they are — gay, straight, young, old, male, female, rich, or poor — I can't help but feel you lit the path that led me here. You inspired me, with your examples of quiet determination, to find my true calling, just as you found yours. Thanks to you Grandpa, and the generous funds you blessed me with, I took time to become a professionally certified life coach, which, in it's simplest terms, means that I help people find themselves, their purpose and their passion so they can live happier, healthier, simpler lives.

Funny, how even at 50 years old, I still keep the Book Of Life open to the chapter that teaches me how to be non-judgmental, accepting, and to love unconditionally. I know it was you who first shared that chapter with me. It was you who modeled those powerful characteristics daily. It's you, wherever you are, who is still sharing those lessons.

Have a happy holiday season Grandpa. I'd send you some of your favorite dried fruits, but something tells me you're being well taken care of because of the fruits of your labor and love here on earth. Thank you for loving me as your gay grandson and for never wavering in your faith in God — a faith that taught you that everyone deserves unconditional love, and to love others as you would like to be.

Your Grandson Rickey

Rick Clemons is a life changer, motivator, guide, mentor, and inspiring life coach for gay men who are ready to be the man they want to be, not the man they think their supposed to be. He's on a mission; guiding gay men to find their own voice, love deeply, work passionately, and live powerfully without regrets.

Rick's a Certified Professional Coach (CPC) who's been featured on The Ricki Lake Show, Huffington Post, and is a highly sought after radio show guest, blogger, author, and Sex Coach U Faculty Member. He resides in Riverside, California with his partner of 12 years (whoa dude), two teenage daughters (whoa again dude), cats Herman and Lilly (sorry no dogs).

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Rick Clemons, The Gay Man's Life Coach & The Coming Out Coach

Rick is a straight-forward, compassionate, insightful, challenging, mentor, guide, and Certified Professional Coach who's been featured on The Ricki Lake Show, and is a highly sought after radio show personality, blogger, author, and faculty member of Sex Coach U. His loving, challenging, gentle, and inspiring approach ignites a fire in clients, helping them get through the darkest moments of life and come out the other side, kicking butt, and being authentically themselves.

Rick thrives, working with individuals, and those in their inner circle, as they embark on the journey out of the closet and beyond. He specializes in helping people build confidence, live their passion while loving their work, and live authentically. Authenticity isn't just a word he throws around lightly. It's the backbone of his practice and the manner in which he personnally strives to live each and every day of his own life.

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