Alcoholics say, “I’m Mick and I’m and alcoholic.” Sex addicts admit, “I’m Justin and I’m a sex addict.” Overeaters confess, “I’m Tanya and I’m an overeater.” So what do all these people know that’s keeping them out of their own jail cells that Ms. Lindsay Lohan seems to find elusive? They’ve learned to admit “I am!” Plain and simple! No photo ops, press conferences, or house arrest ankle bracelets needed to aid them in admitting they’ve hit their rock bottom, are truly ready to do the work, and want to step into being a different “I am” for themselves.
It’s a two-step that doesn’t require the singsong melodies of Shania Twain or boot scootin’ down to a country bar to learn the steps. In fact, this two-step formula is something I developed and use daily with clients as they dig into and embrace their truth in order to experience unencumbered freedom.
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Step 1 - Get rid of your “should be’s.” The moment you find yourself backed against a wall and muttering, “I should be...,” immediately stop and ask “Why?” The “should be’s” are messy little critters that are either “self-induced” or “others, critically acclaimed directorial debuts” on how we “should be/do” life. Instead, your invited to let the finger fly in the face of “should...!” Well, maybe not every time, but at least when it’s got you should-ing more than being in Step 2 which is...
Step 2 – Welcome the I Am’s! Whether your going on a date with Mr. Bad Apple or eating that extra piece of Dutch Apple Pie, just own it and say “I Am!” It’s that seductive state of really being “I am” that gives you the power to move, shake things up, and be you. Let the judgment go and just be in your I am! What you’ll find is a juicy nectar of peace, power, and purpose that does two things (see here’s more of that two step stuff coming your way!)