#2 Standing At The Crossroads – Conflict is at the core of this energy. “I really would like to have sex, but my favorite TV show is on.” “Ughhh, I know he really likes me licking his balls, but that really doesn’t do anything for me.” Anytime you are questioning, comparing, contrasting something in your sexual life, you are more than likely in the crossroads of conflict. However, there is a silver lining to this sexual energy. Conflict leads to getting off your bum and doing something, not just waiting for something to happen.
#3 Coping with clitoris and penis! Let’s go right for the jugular with this energy. If you’re justifying why you let him stimulate your clitoris in a way that leads you to a Best Actress Oscar performance rather than an authentic orgasm, then you’re coping sweetheart! And why? To make him feel better? To let him know he’s a learned man? Or maybe the shoes on the other foot and no matter how often she slathers your man penis with her saliva, you just can’t get past the teeth grating against your skin...but she’s trying! Talk about communication breaking down. In this energy you are primed for moving out of “It’s ok,” to “Let’s stop coping, start talking, and make it better for both of us!”
#4 It’s all about you baby! As we begin to step forward into higher levels of sexual energies that build us up – us being both parties – we land in the sexual energy of the passion of compassion. Often exercised out of love and caring for others, the energy of compassion, carries the scent of sensuality that can’t be misconstrued as selfish. However, tread cautiously when making it “All for you baby!” Yes, we all love to be showered with love, affection, and the occasional, “Let me just get you off!” Yet, when not kept in check, these feelings, emotions, and loving displays of affection can easily send us into the spiral of conflict. What started as a selfless act of pleasing our partner just turned into the proverbial “Can’t you see that I’m trying to make you happy? You just don’t get it do you?” Be passionately compassionate with both you and your partner in mind.
#5 What about you? What about Me? This sexual energy is highly sensual as it emanates from a space of all about the “WE!” What do WE want to experience together from this sexual encounter? How do WE desire to please each other? When should WE try something new to enhance our playtime? Questions like these, spark the “win/win” conversations that catapult “Sex on Tuesday’s at 8:00 p.m." to “Rock my world tiger(ess) with the wink of an eye!” Open the door, unzip the drawers, and drop the garters because you both get the energy of WE, which is so much more powerful than the energy of ME!