Why Gay Men Lie To Themselves About Their Lack Of Success

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Why Gay Men Lie To Themselves About Their Lack Of Success
If you don't believe in you as a gay man then how the hell is anyone else going to?

You know you want it. Yes, you, Mr. Gay Guy! You're dreaming of success, whatever success means to you. However, those crazy, bitchy voices echo in your head:

  • You're stupid
  • You're not talented
  • You're unable to play the game
  • You're living a pipe dream
  • You're going to lose good friends if you become successful

Really? How close are we here? No matter how much you desire success, you've got to get out of your own masculine bullshit way, and give yourself permission to go be as damn successful as you want—no gay required.

It can become a really screwed up mess if you don't stay true to who you are and listen deeply to your inner desires: No shame is required, no guilt to lay all over ourselves and no reason to not believe.

Success is simple. Success is:

  • How you define it
  • What it creates for you
  • Who it you become from it
  • Why it makes you feel so damn good
  • Where it takes you
  • When you will allow yourself to go for it

Are you ready? Ready to go beyond a shadow of a doubt and step into your success with no apologies? If so, then go for it, and go for it hard! Be your own personal life coach, and make your dreams a reality. 

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This article was originally published at The Gay Man's Life Coach. Reprinted with permission.
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Rick Clemons

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Rick Clemons, The Gay Man's Life Coach & The Coming Out Coach

Rick is a straight-forward, compassionate, insightful, challenging, mentor, guide, and Certified Professional Coach who's been featured on The Ricki Lake Show, and is a highly sought after radio show personality, blogger, author, and faculty member of Sex Coach U. His loving, challenging, gentle, and inspiring approach ignites a fire in clients, helping them get through the darkest moments of life and come out the other side, kicking butt, and being authentically themselves.

Rick thrives, working with individuals, and those in their inner circle, as they embark on the journey out of the closet and beyond. He specializes in helping people build confidence, live their passion while loving their work, and live authentically. Authenticity isn't just a word he throws around lightly. It's the backbone of his practice and the manner in which he personnally strives to live each and every day of his own life.

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