5. Stop making excuses. The more you make excuses for why your gay dating life is the toilet, the less room there is for it to be any other way. If every date you go on with a gay guy leads you to say, "He was nice, but ... " stop and ask yourself "Why are you always justifying your way out of dating?"
6. What's sex got to do with it? Well, it depends on your position — no pun intended. Dating from the perspective of "it's all about sex" can pay off if that's how you truly feel. Conversely, making sex the secondary acquisition can also be a home run. Regardless of your perspective, the take-away here is to be truthful with yourself all along. When you hide from your truth, it won't set you free. Plus, being honest with yourself is a great launching pad for honesty in your relationship.
7. Ask yourself, "So what?" Constantly in a tailspin with the same old audio tapes playing in your head? Do you always say: "Gay dating is such a chore," or, "Gay men just want sex," or "Every gay guy I meet only wants to talk about themselves?" If so, start asking yourself, "So what?"
For example, "Gay dating is such a chore." So What? "When it becomes work, it's not fun." So What? "If it's not fun, then I might as well just stay home." So what? "If I stay home then I get depressed and lonely!"
Bingo! Gay dating is a chore that eventually leads to feeling depressed and lonely ... or at least that's what the replay of the tape your listening to is saying. So change the tape!
8. Be a fearless, foolish and fun-loving. Crazy as it sounds, one of these three "f-words" could lead you to Mr. Right. First, be fearless in your gay dating pursuits. After all, if he thinks you're afraid, you probably are, and your sweaty armpit stains will rat you out! If you can't win them by being fearless, then be a little foolish, and let your heart lead you. Even if you feel like a fool, you'll rack up the frequent heartbreak points that will eventually pay for an all-expenses-paid trip to true love. Finally, let the fun-loving gay dater in you out to play. What's the worst that can happen? Keep reading ...