Be the man a man wants, not the man who needs a man!

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Be the man a man wants, not the man who needs a man!
Clingy, needy, on him like a panting dog. Honey, that just ain’t pretty on anyone, not even gay men.
  1. Be confident. Confidence is very sexy when done the right way. This doesn’t mean you have to be confident enough to stand on a stage and perform, or run a marathon. Simply be confident in you and your gifts that you bring to the table.
     
  2. Be genuine. Nothing is more of a turn off then someone who is pretending to be someone they’re not. Transparency is a two-way street. You’re either transparent and genuine, or transparent and a fraud.
     
  3. Be available. One of the most common relationship issues that shows up time and time again, is that gay men feel like the guy they are interested in just isn’t available to them – physically and emotionally. The best way to combat this feeling is to ask yourself, “What does being available mean to me, and am I walking the walk and talking the talk?” Again, what you put out is what you attract!
     
  4. Be vulnerable. None of us likes to get hurt in any relationship. Depending on how many times we may have been hurt, jilted, dropped, broken up with, it’s possible that we’ve got a energy shield around our vulnerability that no other gay man can break through. If he can’t break through the vulnerability, he can’t get to the real you, and thus he you won’t be the man a man wants.
     
  5. Be exciting. Not asking you to jump out of an airplane, go white water rafting, or dance naked on a Broadway stage, unless that’s how you define exciting. In reality, exciting is in the eyes of the beholder. The clearer you are about the type of guy you want to attract, what you believe he will find exciting about you, and how you can meet his excitement desire, the higher the likelihood that you will hit a home run!

Needs are important when it comes to food, water, shelter, etc. On the contrary, they’re just plain ugly when they show up in the form of clinginess, and suffocating behaviors that give no space for a relationship to grow. If you can plant the seed that you’re not a needy gay man, you just might find a relationship that blossoms into something you’ve always desired...and more!

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Rick Clemons, The Gay Man's Life Coach & The Coming Out Coach

Rick is a straight-forward, compassionate, insightful, challenging, mentor, guide, and Certified Professional Coach who's been featured on The Ricki Lake Show, and is a highly sought after radio show personality, blogger, author, and faculty member of Sex Coach U. His loving, challenging, gentle, and inspiring approach ignites a fire in clients, helping them get through the darkest moments of life and come out the other side, kicking butt, and being authentically themselves.

Rick thrives, working with individuals, and those in their inner circle, as they embark on the journey out of the closet and beyond. He specializes in helping people build confidence, live their passion while loving their work, and live authentically. Authenticity isn't just a word he throws around lightly. It's the backbone of his practice and the manner in which he personnally strives to live each and every day of his own life.

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