In October of 1999, I never would have realized that I was setting the stage for the best Valentine's Day I would ever have. In fact, October was the worst of times.
Through the heartache, pain of breaking apart a 13-year marriage, and dashing any hopes that my then 9-month and 3 ½ year old daughters would grow up with Mom and Dad in the same house, I, unbeknownst to me would discover that Cupid was about to pull an arrow out of his quiver, take aim, and show me the true meaning of love.
Over the next few months, I went threw a much needed break-up with my handsom Brit (all for my own good), dove into the quagmire of believing I needed to have a man in my life (oh not so true), and learned some lessons about being gay, in a gay mans world.
Before I knew it, Valentine's Day was rolling towards me, full steam ahead, and I was facing "Single Awareness Day" for the first time in 13 years. Thank God.
In the fear of being alone, not having a Valentine, other than my two beautiful little princesses, I went to the hopeless brink of "Why Me?" That's when Cupid shot his arrow, hitting me straight in the heart.
Unfortunately, Cupid didn't deliver me People Magazines Sexiest Man Alive, Richard Gere. Fortunately, he gave me a loving shot to the heart that changed everything, February 14, 2000.
Cupids arrow was filled with a magical elixir that had nothing to do with me coming out of the closet and everything to do with me accepting me.
Heres the 14 Love Notes I received that I'm now passing along to you!
Love yourself enough to be yourself.
You have to believe in yourself, before anyone else believes in you and see your greatness!
The most important times in our lives are when we take the risk to step out of our comfort zone.
It's not the surviving that counts; it's the thriving.
The thing you least want to do may be the thing that's in your best interest!
Every decision you make is either out of fear or love.
A small investment in trust goes a long ways in believing in you for a lifetime.
You're stronger than you'll ever know unless you never question how strong you can be in this moment.
Raw is the new real.
Be more than you are, but flexible enough to be less than you expect.
Sometimes we just have to catch up to where the universe intended us to be all along.
If you have the tenacity to be yourself; you'll never fall prey to the audacity of being what others think you should be.
Answer the call to do what Tomorrow is asking you to do Today.
- The truth of who you are is more important than the false truth of pretending to be someone your not.
My wish for you this Valentine's Day is that you give yourself some self-love. It's the warm embrace of self-love that waters the seeds that grow into beautiful blossoms of love for others. Here's one last love note, specifically for my gay readers:
"It takes one moment to learn you're gay. It takes the rest of your life to live a fulfilling, self-loving, gay life."
Now that I've given you all a 14 Valentine Love Notes, plus a bonus note, I'm wondering, "Where the hell are my flowers? I don't hear my doorbell ringing incessently, or see a hot, hunky, furry-chested, shirtless FTD Delivery guy delivering boatloads of flowers from all of my adoring YourTango fans!"
See how you are?
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