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Cocky vs. Confident...What's Gay got to do with it?

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Cocky vs. Confident...What's Gay got to do with it?
Flippant, snarky, quck to the quip or CONFIDENT? Are gay men really the masters at this thing?

 

  • Looks, books, and understanding the hooks. Forget the rhyme, but it's actually true. How many gay men are hot looking, very smart, and know how to play the game? A lot! I know that's not a definitive number from a Gartner research study, but you get the point. Then, if you bundle all those "+'s" up in one package, no pun intended; I'd say you'd have every right to be CONFIDENT!
  • Truth is, if you stand from afar and make the assumption that gay men are cocky, self-indulgent, and singing, "Look at me," you may have missed the point. Often, our judgmental, critical, crow's nest view is more smoke and mirrors than the authentic truth. In fact, this article isn't about "cockiness vs. confidence in gay men." Oh contraire. It's a simple, little window looking into all of us and our judgments about others. People - gay or straight - who've had to face battles and challenges, found the way to stay focused, take care of themselves, use their book knowledge, and life lessons to create the life they desire are just plain CONFIDENT...for the most part. There's always a few buttheads in the mix!


    The next time you are confronted with someone who appears to be “cocky,” make room to explore “cocky” vs. “confident.” You just might discover that you’re seeing something in this confident person that you wish you could be. Or even more revealing, you may be looking in the mirror and seeing traits of “cockiness” in yourself that you wish weren’t there.

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    Rick is a straight-forward, compassionate, insightful, challenging, mentor, guide, and Certified Professional Coach who's been featured on The Ricki Lake Show, and is a highly sought after radio show personality, blogger, author, and faculty member of Sex Coach U. His loving, challenging, gentle, and inspiring approach ignites a fire in clients, helping them get through the darkest moments of life and come out the other side, kicking butt, and being authentically themselves.

    Rick thrives, working with individuals, and those in their inner circle, as they embark on the journey out of the closet and beyond. He specializes in helping people build confidence, uncover their deepest passions, and live their life's purpose. Authenticity isn't just a word he throws around lightly. It's the backbone of his practice and the manner in which he personnally strives to live each and every day of his own life.

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