Be confident. Confidence is very sexy when done the right way. This doesn’t mean you have to be confident enough to stand on a stage and perform, or run a marathon. Simply be confident in you and your gifts that you bring to the table. You bring them in the right way and he'll snatch you up!
Be genuine. Nothing is more of a turn off then someone who is pretending to be someone they’re not. Transparency is a two-way street. You’re either transparent and genuine, or transparent and a fraud. Which do you choose to be, and which do you want to date?
Be available. One of the most common relationship issues that shows up time and time again, is that gay men feel like the guy they are interested in just isn’t available to them – physically and emotionally. The best way to combat this feeling is to ask yourself, “What does being available mean to me, and am I walking the walk and talking the talk?” Again, what you put out is what you attract!
Be vulnerable. None of us likes to get hurt in any relationship. Depending on how many times we may have been hurt, jilted, dropped, broken up with, it’s possible that we’ve got an energy shield around our vulnerability that no other gay man can break through. If he can’t break through the vulnerability, he can’t get to the real you, and thus he you won’t be the man a who wants you to be his man.
- Be exciting. Not asking you to jump out of an airplane, go white water rafting, or dance naked on a Broadway stage, unless that’s how you define exciting. In reality, exciting is in the eyes of the beholder. The clearer you are about the type of guy you want to attract, what you believe he will find exciting about you, and how you can meet his desires, the higher the likelihood that you will hit a home run!
Needs are important when it comes to food, water, shelter, etc. On the contrary, they’re just plain ugly when they show up in the form of clinginess, and suffocating behaviors that give no space for a relationship to grow. If you can plant the seed that you’re not a needy gay man, you just might find a passionate relationship that blossoms into something you’ve always desired...and more!
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