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5 Tips To Survive Post Valentine's Day Delusions (PVDD)

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5 Tips To Survive Post Valentine's Day Delusions (PVDD)
There are ways to prevent the frustrations of Valentine's Day from ever happening!
How to cope when your Valentine's Day didn't exactly live up to your high expectations!

5. There's always now! The barrage of Hallmark holidays often creates this frantic, "Gotta celebrate it today" mentality. Like Pavlov's dog, we fall into line and play to the tune of "Dozen red roses, chocolates, and a lovey dovey card." Oh, and it needs to all happen on February 14th. Actually, no it doesn't. Just because they say, doesn't make it so. The spontaneous, "I love you, I care, and I'm glad to call you my icing on my cake" is so much more sexier and heartfelt than "Happy Valentines Day (check), here's your gift (check), let's got to dinner (check), and now it's time for sex (check)!"

The delusions created by any beliefs, whether it's Valentine's Day or a typical Monday, are just that, beliefs. Even saying it is a typical Monday is a delusional belief. Until we experience Monday, we won't know if it is similar to other Mondays we've experienced. Up until that actual experience, it's just a delusional illusion we create. The Illusion of Control

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Instead of expending energy that leads to PVDD, we should all just keep some 1/2 priced Valentine's Candy, a naked picture of ourselves, and a spontaneous date night out at the ready to surprise the one we love. Just make sure you don't go out naked for your spontaneous date night out with stale 1/2 priced Valentine's Day candy. There's a whole new energy that will arise!

Rick Clemons, The Coming Out Coach, helps men and women step into their powerful truth of who they are so they can fully experience and live their powerful purpose. Certified as a Core Energy Coach, Energy Leadership Index Master Practitioner and Men's Inner Journey Facilitator, Rick is also a sought after speaker, workshop presenter, and professional blogger. To learn more, please visit rickclemons.com.

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Rick Clemons is a Certified Professional Coach who's been featured on The Ricki Lake Show, and is a highly sought after radio show guest, blogger, author, and Sex Coach U Faculty member, who lovingly addresses the many facets of Coming Out for all who are touched by this Journey. Rick also hosts his own radio show, The Coming Out Lounge.

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