In just a few days it will be Valentines Day. Thie day to celebrate being in a relationship, brood because you’re not, or stake your claim proudly as a member of SAD (Single Awareness Day)! I have to admit that some of those SAD parties I attended on Valentines Days’ past were so much more entertaining than the $200 dinners out with the one you love...no offense to my partner! Well actually, he wouldn’t take offense because we’ve come to a space in our relationship where it doesn’t matter what day of the year it is – we, in our own, way always celebrate our love, and rarely do we spend $200 on dinner. Not to imply that we have the storybook relationship or that we're cheap bastards, it just happens that we’ve put work into our relationship as a couple and as individuals, listening, challenging, exploring, and most of all...digging into “The Gay Man Within" so that we tune into our love daily, and use $200 over a couple of "Date Nights!"
Excavating under the masks of our outer self isn’t only reserved for gay men. Lesbians, heterosexuals, transgender, bisexuals – everyone gets invited to the adventure. Whether you choose to explore or not creates a whole different voyage. I chose to explore because as a gay man, and as a guy who at one time was also married to a woman, my spelunking expedition enabled me to confront some very dark caverns; as a result, I discovered some shimmering pools of truths that have enabled me to be in “love” and “relationship” in a whole new way – with myself and others. Now, I focus on love for what it is to me, honor what it is to my partner, and believe in one mantra, “To be in a relationship you have to be in the relationship!” No fringe hanging, skulking around the corners, playing hide-n-seek. Instead you're able to play full out and be totally in your relationship. By stepping into relationship with the gay man within - or straight man, straight woman, whatever your sexual identity – you begin to release unending stress, stop looking at your world through rose-colored glasses, and see yourself and your world through a Windex shine view.
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