5 Tips For Loving The Gay Man Within

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5 Tips For Loving The Gay Man Within
Whether your Gay or Straight, Loving Yourself From The Inside Out Makes For The Best Valentines Day!

In just a few days it will be Valentines Day. Thie day to celebrate being in a relationship, brood because you’re not, or stake your claim proudly as a member of SAD (Single Awareness Day)! I have to admit that some of those SAD parties I attended on Valentines Days’ past were so much more entertaining than the $200 dinners out with the one you love...no offense to my partner! Well actually, he wouldn’t take offense because we’ve come to a space in our relationship where it doesn’t matter what day of the year it is – we, in our own, way always celebrate our love, and rarely do we spend $200 on dinner. Not to imply that we have the storybook relationship or that we're cheap bastards, it just happens that we’ve put work into our relationship as a couple and as individuals, listening, challenging, exploring, and most of all...digging into “The Gay Man Within" so that we tune into our love daily, and use $200 over a couple of "Date Nights!"

The Exploration
Excavating under the masks of our outer self isn’t only reserved for gay men. Lesbians, heterosexuals, transgender, bisexuals – everyone gets invited to the adventure. Whether you choose to explore or not creates a whole different voyage. I chose to explore because as a gay man, and as a guy who at one time was also married to a woman, my spelunking expedition enabled me to confront some very dark caverns; as a result, I discovered some shimmering pools of truths that have enabled me to be in “love” and “relationship” in a whole new way – with myself and others. Now, I focus on love for what it is to me, honor what it is to my partner, and believe in one mantra, “To be in a relationship you have to be in the relationship!” No fringe hanging, skulking around the corners, playing hide-n-seek. Instead you're able to play full out and be totally in your relationship. By stepping into relationship with the gay man within - or straight man, straight woman, whatever your sexual identity – you begin to release unending stress, stop looking at your world through rose-colored glasses, and see yourself and your world through a Windex shine view.

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Rick Clemons, The Gay Man's Life Coach & The Coming Out Coach

Rick is a straight-forward, compassionate, insightful, challenging, mentor, guide, and Certified Professional Coach who's been featured on The Ricki Lake Show, and is a highly sought after radio show personality, blogger, author, and faculty member of Sex Coach U. His loving, challenging, gentle, and inspiring approach ignites a fire in clients, helping them get through the darkest moments of life and come out the other side, kicking butt, and being authentically themselves.

Rick thrives, working with individuals, and those in their inner circle, as they embark on the journey out of the closet and beyond. He specializes in helping people build confidence, live their passion while loving their work, and live authentically. Authenticity isn't just a word he throws around lightly. It's the backbone of his practice and the manner in which he personnally strives to live each and every day of his own life.

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