Want to Attract Quality Men? Stop Using These 2 Words...


Did you know there are 2 dirty little words that repel repel quality men? Nix them from your vocab.

I had an interesting exchange after posting on my Facebook profile this morning. Here’s what I wrote:

I'm allergic to the words “LOOK” & “KEEP” when it comes to men… Excited about showing elite goddesses around the world how to easily ATTRACT a successful, quality man & have him COMMIT QUICKLY.

Andy: What does “LOOK” & “KEEP” mean concerning men

Me: Ahh, well Andy, we ladies are conditioned to think and say “I am looking for a good man” or ask “How do I keep a man?” Both weak energy. A great man is ATTRACTED & he also WANTS to stay with you.

Andy: I always thought it was we men who pursue you ladies. I guess if the man is rich it might be different since he has what she wants. But the average man usually does the pursuing.

Me: There are all kinds of wrong things with that thinking Andy. In fact, you’ve just inspired a video. Must work with a client now, but I WILL get back to this…

Wow! What’s the lesson here? Where do I start?

Well, there are at least 7 lessons in there (including the whole “if the man is rich” bit), but I have some amazingly gorgeous goddess clients to work with today…so let’s just stick to 3. Deal?


What you SAY is what you get. If you’re always focusing on “looking, searching and finding” a quality man, you’re actually REPELLING him.

As a woman, you naturally have energy that a high quality man is DRAWN to. You may have heard of the Chinese concept of Yin and Yang. They are opposite energies that BALANCE each other.

A man who is SEEKING & HUNTING for you (in yang energy) is open to seeing and receiving yin energy. Yin is all things feminine and sensual – everything that he IS NOT.

So while Andy doesn’t realize it consciously, he gets it. Notice he said, “I always thought it was we men who pursue you ladies.” Yep! He’s right. However, he doesn’t just “think” it’s instinct, in his DNA.

Speak words of what you TRULY DESIRE to have and happen.


  • Instead of “I am looking for…” use “I am attracting…”
  • Instead of asking “Where are the quality men?” or “Are there any left?” ask yourself “Where can I go to meet quality men?”

At this point, you may be thinking, “Rhonda, what about being a strong, decisive woman? You always talk about that.”

Yes, I do. You see, each woman has several personalities or character inside. All are needed and one isn’t less important than the other.

Men are drawn to Princess Fiona, yet he adores when her inner Xena Warrior Princess comes out (gotta love Lucy Lawless!). Confused? No need to be. It’s the same way with men.

They have a feminine and masculine side – some more than others, but it’s there. Whether he just embraces and lives it out is another story.


Andy is not alone about being confused as to what the word ATTRACT truly means. Gosh, the word is thrown around so much I’m not surprised he is. So let’s look at that now…


verb \?-?trakt\

Definition of ATTRACT : to cause to approach or adhere: as a : to pull to or draw toward oneself or itself <a magnet attracts iron> b : to draw by appeal to natural or excited interest, emotion, or aesthetic sense : entice <attract attention>

Wow! That’s powerful.

Do you see, feel or hear any WEAK ENERGY in those definitions? Can’t you feel the power stirring up in you RIGHT NOW?

This leads to lesson #3.


Most women don’t know this, but we are NATURAL attractors… We are ALL BORN WITH THE ABILITY to attract. It’s just that most of us are unaware of HOW to use that power.

  • You can cause a man to approach you.
  • You can draw a man to you.
  • You can appeal to men naturally.
  • You can excite a man’s interest.
  • You can evoke strong emotion in a man.

Not only can you attract just ANY man…but you can also attract the TYPE or QUALITY of man you want!

You can:

  • Attract an amazing, high quality man…or attract a jerks.
  • Attract a faithful, honest man…or attract a cheating, lying man.
  • Attract an attentive man…or attract a man who takes you for granted.
  • Attract a man who treats you like a queen…or a man who abuses you.

We all attract. We also attract the TYPE of man who pursues us as I wrote above. This is one of the hardest things for a lot of women to accept.

When we’re in a VICTIM MINDSET, we say men do things “to” us. I’m going to tread carefully here. I say this with all respect for any pain and suffering you may have gone through – verbal, emotional and physical abuse alike… I, too, was in an emotionally and verbally abusive relationship many years ago.

However, until I stopped thinking like a victim and realized I had a CHOICE, nothing changed.

Here’s another compelling, outside-the-box thought…

Sometimes, at both ends of the spectrum – we could be talking about THE SAME MAN.

You see this all the time. It’s so cliché, but it’s true. How many instances have we seen of a famed playboy women could not “tame” (for lack of a better word) all of a sudden – after leaving a 7-mile-long path of broken hearts – goes ga-ga over a plain woman?

Everyone is so shocked, awed and dismayed. Why? They just don’t understand the influence of a woman in her FULL POWER.

While outward beauty can attract more men – when it comes to inspiring him to stay, it’s a whole different story.

If we only understood just how powerful nature created us. Just how powerful would we all be?

I am on a mission to unleash that very power in a special group of elite women world-wide RIGHT NOW. Are you one of them?

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To your love life, 



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