I think Jennifer Aniston is pretty. I think she’s adorable. However, pretty and adorable will help you attract a high-caliber, quality man, but they’re practically useless when it comes to inspiring him to love you long-term! (If you know Jennifer, please forward this to her. I really do want her to have a great long-lasting love life with Justin Theroux).
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Did you know that the ’7-year-itch’ is actually a '4-year-itch'? (Must be all the new ADHD cases)
Here’s an excerpt from ABC’s 20/20 Sex: Myths, Lies and Straight Talk
Is there anything to the belief that spouses are most likely to feel the urge to stray after seven years? Actually, according to evolutionary anthropologist Helen Fisher, it happens a lot sooner, and the reasons for this may go back to the dawn of humanity.
“As it turns out, the standard period of human birth spacing was originally four years. We were built to have our children four years apart and I think that this drive to pair up and stay together at least four years evolved millions of years ago so that a man and a woman would be drawn together and stay together, tolerate each other, at least long enough to rear a single child through infancy,” said Fisher, author of “Why We Love.”
Following the urge to find a new partner after that four-year period, she says, may have been a way that humans added more variation to the gene pool.
So there is an itch — it’s just a four-year itch, according to Fisher.
“People around the world tend to divorce during and around the fourth year of marriage,” she said.
So don’t say I didn’t tell you. Even if you don’t believe it, look around.
I’ve got women coming to me at 36, 45 and up that have never had a relationship that lasted longer than FOUR MONTHS! But before you say, “That’s them, I don’t need this”, read on…
To make things even more complicated, let’s talk hormones…
According to the study, published in the journal Hormones and Behavior, researchers found that men and women who inhaled a spritz of OXYTOCIN rated strangers as more attractive.
Angeliki Theodoridou, a Psychologist at the University of Bristol, who led the study said:
"[When Oxytocin courses through our blood,] we are more likely to see people we don’t know in a more positive light… This effect adds to the hormone’s known role in human relationships."
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The researchers tested 96 volunteers in a double-blind, placebo-controlled trial, where participants received either a spray of Oxytocin or a placebo. Subjects were then asked to rate pictures of 48 men and women for attractiveness, and 30 for trustworthiness. The team also tested for mood.
The results showed that subjects who received Oxytocin tended to rate both male and female strangers as both more attractive and more trustworthy – regardless of their mood.