Two things Jennifer Aniston (and you) should know about inspiring a high-caliber man to stay.
Beyonce knows… Angelina Jolie knows… Jennifer Aniston? Uh, probably not.
I think Jennifer Aniston is pretty. I think she’s adorable. However, pretty and adorable will help you attract a high-caliber, quality man, but they’re practically useless when it comes to inspiring him to love you long-term! (If you know Jennifer, please forward this to her. I really do want her to have a great long-lasting love life with Justin Theroux).
Did you know that the ’7-year-itch’ is actually a '4-year-itch'? (Must be all the new ADHD cases)
Here’s an excerpt from ABC’s 20/20 Sex: Myths, Lies and Straight Talk
Is there anything to the belief that spouses are most likely to feel the urge to stray after seven years? Actually, according to evolutionary anthropologist Helen Fisher, it happens a lot sooner, and the reasons for this may go back to the dawn of humanity.
“As it turns out, the standard period of human birth spacing was originally four years. We were built to have our children four years apart and I think that this drive to pair up and stay together at least four years evolved millions of years ago so that a man and a woman would be drawn together and stay together, tolerate each other, at least long enough to rear a single child through infancy,” said Fisher, author of “Why We Love.”
Following the urge to find a new partner after that four-year period, she says, may have been a way that humans added more variation to the gene pool.
So there is an itch — it’s just a four-year itch, according to Fisher.
“People around the world tend to divorce during and around the fourth year of marriage,” she said.
So don’t say I didn’t tell you. Even if you don’t believe it, look around.
I’ve got women coming to me at 36, 45 and up that have never had a relationship that lasted longer than FOUR MONTHS! But before you say, “That’s them, I don’t need this”, read on…
To make things even more complicated, let’s talk hormones…
According to the study, published in the journal Hormones and Behavior, researchers found that men and women who inhaled a spritz of OXYTOCIN rated strangers as more attractive.
Angeliki Theodoridou, a Psychologist at the University of Bristol, who led the study said:
"[When Oxytocin courses through our blood,] we are more likely to see people we don’t know in a more positive light… This effect adds to the hormone’s known role in human relationships."
The researchers tested 96 volunteers in a double-blind, placebo-controlled trial, where participants received either a spray of Oxytocin or a placebo. Subjects were then asked to rate pictures of 48 men and women for attractiveness, and 30 for trustworthiness. The team also tested for mood.
The results showed that subjects who received Oxytocin tended to rate both male and female strangers as both more attractive and more trustworthy – regardless of their mood.
As anything else in nature, it doesn’t last. You can attract eople with your looks, but they won’t stay unless they have certain stimulation.
WHY YOU NEED TO KEEP THESE 2 TIPS IN MIND…
Still thinking, “Sounds cool, but it doesn’t apply to me"? You’re only tapping into a fraction of your powerful, magnetic presence.
What we ladies forget (or don’t even know in the first place) is that the VERY same things that make us irresistible to men can make us irresistible to people in general – everywhere we go, in everything we do.
That means more money and opportunity too.
So WHAT are the 2 things that Beyonce & Angelina?
Let’s focus on Beyonce. She’s talented, beautiful and intelligent. However, these 3 things alone cannot inspire a man to stay LONG-TERM. Talent and intelligence are admirable and two things we love ‘rationally’. Beauty is something we get used to after a while, so it just gets your stiletto in the door.
However, one thing that INSPIRES a high-caliber, quality man to commit long-term is…
Merriam-Webster definition of mystique (in the terms we’re discussing here) is:
1: an air or attitude of mystery and reverence developing around something or someone
Ummm, that just sounds juicy and sexy!
Do you recall a time when you were getting to know a man and you both were so excited you talked for hours for the first month or so and told each other EVERYTHING? Do you also remember how the conversation lagged or how he, you or both of you lost interest?
You didn’t have much to DISCOVER anymore. What you saw, was what you got. In other words, a boring hum-drum life and conversation ensued. I know you can’t literally tell someone every detail of your life in 30 days, but you can SHARE TOO MUCH and kill CURIOSITY.
Men are curious, they like adventure. Heck, so do we.
When I lived in Italy and France, that is one thing I admired about the women there. They didn’t let it all hang out.
MYSTIQUE is one of the attributes Beyonce has. You don’t know everything about her. She’s not on every TV show spilling her secrets. Honestly, mystique is just plain classy in a woman.
Learn to use MYSTIQUE like Beyonce – get the details here.
So what are those 3 things women like Beyonce know and practice, that most women don’t about MYSTIQUE?
HERE ARE 3 THINGS YOU CAN DO THAT SUCCESSFUL MEN, LIKE JAY-Z, LOVE…
1) They don’t tell their man everything.
They don’t phone him from the store saying, “I’m at the Christian Louboutin boutique buying some killer stilettos.” No. Instead, they keep it to themselves and just wear them out with him. “What will she wear next” is an intoxicating form of mystique. My man loves and NOTICES anything I do that is different or new.
2) Don’t tell your girlfriends everything.
They don’t spill everything about their relationship or life with their girlfriends. They have what I call a Sensual Secret Garden. It’s a place where you keep your ‘secrets’ that make you feel yummy or rejuvenate.
There’s an “I-want-more-of-her” energy around women like this. So even if you don’t tell your guy everything, blabbing all to your girlfriends will rob you of that air. Plus, he can see and hear you chatting away on the phone with your gal pals for hours – NOT attractive.
3) Talk less. Listen more.
If you find the first two things hard to do, this will help you. The quickest way to bond with someone emotionally is to LISTEN and UNDERSTAND them. The more you listen, the less you’ll be talking about yourself. Even better, your ‘intrigue and mystique factor’ will skyrocket!
Wondering what women like Angelina Jolie know and 3 things they do that keep men like Brad Pitt coming back for more…year after year after year?
Stay tuned. I'll be posting part 2 so you can get all the juicy details.
Meanwhile, why not leave a comment below. I’d love to know what you think.
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