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Being A Single Mom DOES NOT Mean You Should Be Single Too


Learn to let yourself be loved even if you're a single mother

Happy Mother’s Day!

I’d like to say thank you to moms everywhere for all the things that you do. I’ve had many jobs in my life, and none of them was tougher than being a single mother to four children. If you’re a single mom who wants to find someone special, I’ve been in your shoes and today’s post is especially for you and packed with tons of love.

Just because you’re a single mom, it doesn’t mean that you can’t have love. I’m not going to lie and tell you that it will be easy. You know that being a mom is not easy. It is possible for you to have love though, and I don’t want you to wait until after your kids are grown to pursue it.

Being a mom is an enormous responsibility and usually comes with a heavy dose of guilt, if we ever dare to put ourselves first. I disagree with this heartily. Your being a martyr does not serve you or your children. You deserve to be happy and you deserve to have love if you want it, and not just from your kids.

Your kids will be grown and gone sooner than you think. They will pair up with their own mates, start families and move on. Please don’t wait until that happens to think about having your own life.

My four children are now grown and I’m proud of them and of the job I did raising them. I did the best I could, every single day, while they were growing up. I did not want to have regrets once they were grown.

I wasn’t a perfect mom by any stretch of the imagination but I have the peace of knowing that I gave it my very best, all I could give. My list of regrets is very short. Number one on that list is not being kind to myself during those years. You read that right, I regret the way I treated myself, not my kids.

I would like to encourage anyone who wants to find love, but especially single moms, to be kind and loving to yourselves. If you want to have a mate, you need to make time in your schedule to date, nourish yourself with good food, get enough sleep, and buy a few nice outfits.

Your kids will not thank you for not doing these things for yourself, and even if they did, it wouldn’t be enough. Treat yourself well now, don’t wait until your kids grow up to have something that is so important to you.

Being a mom is challenging, being a single mom takes the word “challenging” to a whole new level. If you’re a single mom, you know how to work. I would like to encourage you to take your amazing dedication and willingness to work and channel it into something just for you.

Be kind to yourself and give yourself permission to go for the things you want in life. Do not wait until your kids are grown up to do this. You deserve to have love in your life, if you want it. It’s up to you to make sure that you get it. Start taking action today.

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This article was originally published at Renée Suzanne Coaching. Reprinted with permission from the author.


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