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Love Is Near! How To Stay Positive When Seaching For "The One"

Love, Heartbreak

Rejection isn't personal. Here's how to put it in perspective.

I spent last weekend at The Ultimate Women's Expo in Phoenix and it was fantastic! It was my first expo and I learned so much. You have to really put yourself out there if you want to be a love coach. You can't hide at home behind your computer all the time and expect to touch people's lives.

I flew in from Chicago to spend two days talking to women (and a few men) about love. I rented a booth, gave a 25-minute talk and poured on the love.

Most of those wonderful people loved me right back, but some didn't. They walked right past and ignored me, even when I said, "Hi." That's ok though. I knew I had the best product in the room. Love! I was there to fulfill my mission and I did.

How about you? Do you get discouraged and give up when you put up an online profile and don't get the response you hoped for?

What do you do when you are ignored at a social event or when the wrong guys email you? What happens when you go on a date with someone and he doesn't call you afterwards? Do you feel rejected and wonder what's wrong?

Nothing is wrong at all. It's most likely not about you. 99% of the time it's just that these people don't know you.

They are only doing the same thing you are, looking for love and weeding people out as they go. You probably do this too. It isn't personal when you do it and it isn't personal when other people do it either.

There are 7 billion people on this planet and they can't all possibly like you. Not only are they not all going to like you, but you're only going to meet a tiny fraction of them in your lifetime.

There are so many people. You're only looking for one. Keep this in mind the next time things don't go as you had hoped in your love life. There will be someone else. There always is.

You're only looking for one person, and out of those 7 billion there are many, many people who would be a wonderful mate for you. The numbers are in your favor. Just keep going. If you keep putting yourself out there, you will eventually connect with the right person for you. Start now.

What can you do to meet new people today? Can you tweak your online profile, post better pictures or go out to a social event this weekend? Can you email someone or say hi to some people at the gym?

At the expo, I noticed that more people talked to me when I was standing up, making eye contact and saying hello to them first. Waiting for people to come up to my table and introduce themselves to me was much less effective. It's all about finding what works.

I connected with so many wonderful people in Phoenix last weekend. Phoenix is full of amazing people!

There were women who brought their friends to my booth because they wanted me to help them find love. Mothers, grandmothers and sisters taking my postcards home for people they cared about who were lonesome or discouraged with dating.

Phoenix is not so very different from any other city in this way. There are so many wonderful people in this world. People who love each other, want good things for each other and look out for one another.

There are good people in your city too, plenty of them. There is so much love in this world. I know there is enough for you. I want you to put yourself out there and keep going so that you can get yours.

If you enjoyed this post and you're ready to stop leaving your love life to chance, click here. Love is worth reaching for. You can have it. I can help.

This article was originally published at Renée Suzanne Coaching. Reprinted with permission from the author.


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