How To SLAY The Dating Game Right Now

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Make your dreams of a happy life, a reality TODAY.

Some people are so inspiring. They aren’t waiting around to see what life hands them, they're making things happen. They pull out all the stops and they get what they want. We admire these people and want to be more like them.

So many women are total badasses at work but don’t go for what they want when it comes to dating and relationships. They wait for a man to take charge, settle for crumbs or become so jaded and brittle that they shut out any possibility for real intimacy. They say they don’t need a man or a relationship. They're afraid to believe in love or to trust anyone with their hearts. I think this is a shame.

We’re not here on this planet to avoid getting hurt, protect ourselves at all costs and hold everyone at arm’s length. We are here to love and be loved, to achieve our dreams, to live a life worth writing legends about. If you want to do this, you need to have a dream. Own it and be willing to go the distance for it.

Have a dream. Please have a dream. If you don’t, you’re just punching the clock. Do you really just want to “meet someone”? Is it really ok with you to move from one person to another and never have anyone in your heart? Do you want to leave this planet without ever really knowing someone and being known, seen and adored fully by someone who really gets you? What is your relationship dream? If Cupid himself came down from heaven and offered to grant your wish, what would you ask for?

Once you know what you really want, own it. Don’t apologize for it or get wishy-washy about it. This is your dream. This is for you. Unabashedly want whatever it is that you do. Your dreams are not too big for you. They are yours and you deserve to have them. Don’t water down your dreams or postpone them. Expose them to the light, give them room to breathe, nourish them.

A true badass owns her dreams. If you want to get married, have kids, and have a beautiful romance with a man who adores you, own it! You’ll be much less likely to settle for booty calls and other situations that aren’t meeting your needs if you're in touch with your dreams. Stand for the life you want to live and don’t back down. Just because you have dreams doesn’t mean that the universe will roll out the red carpet for you and hand them to you on a silver platter. You probably already know this. The reason most of us stop dreaming is because life can be tough and we’ve gotten the wind knocked out of us a few times.

The difference between the people who achieve their dreams and those who don’t is 90% tenacity, or in my opinion, badass-ity. If someone tells you no, challenges you or laughs at you — you can still stand for yourself and your dreams. Don’t just go home and cry. If you do, get up the next day and try again.

When you get to the end of your life, will it have been worth living? Do you intend to spend your whole life not going for what you want? I hope not. Spend some time alone with yourself today and get in touch with your dreams and then get serious about going for them. You’re the only one who can make them come true. If this article resonated with you and you're ready to make your dream of love come true, I've got your back. Learn more here.


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