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Missing Your Ex? Get Some Relationship Perspective

Love, Heartbreak

Getting over a break-up is much easier with a little perspective.

Since then, I’ve realized that the best way to get over a breakup is to constantly give myself reality checks. Instead of keeping my mind on all the things I miss and all the things I wish were different, I focus on the reality of the situation. I remind myself of the very real reasons it didn’t work out. And I move forward.

I'm still quite surprised at the amount of perspective I was given by one short relationship. And still quite grateful.

@RebeccaAMarquis is the author of How to Be a Good Boyfriend: 34 ways to keep her from getting annoying, jealous, or crazyand offers dating humor and advice on her new Facebook page:


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