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If Your Guy Talks About THIS, He's Definitely Serious About You

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At the start of every relationship it’s not always easy to tell the difference between a guy who's serious about you and a guy seriously trying to get in your pants. The latter is often doing whatever it takes to get you into bed. He’s courting you, being attentive and saying all the things you want to hear, which confuses you even further.

So how do you decipher what’s going on and really figure out if this guy's serious about you?

It all begins with the way you listen. Below, I will give you some tips on what to listen for so that you know he’s not playing any games.

By now, I hope you've taken my advice and asked him the single most important question you should ask on a first date. The premise of that conversation is, “What are you looking for?”

If you listened intently to his answer, you went on a second date with this man because what you’re both looking for the same thing — something serious. You both share the key aspects of your relationship vision. Congrats on passing step number one!


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So you’re both looking for a serious relationship, but how do you know if he’s serious about you? 

A man who's serious about a relationship is talking about serious things. He’s looking to qualify you as much as you are looking to qualify him.

A serious relationship type of guy talks to you about his vision for his life, his goals and his challenges. He’s willing to share himself with you and show vulnerability. But here’s the caveat and where your listening will really come into play: There's a difference between a man who's willing to share for the sake of rehashing and a man who is sharing for discovery. Therein lies the difference in the man who is serious about you, versus the man who is NOT.

A man who isn't serious about you, or at least one who you shouldn't take seriously, is the one who shares for the sake of sharing. He’s treating you like he would a therapist. He's only interested in someone listening to him talk or in saying what you want to hear. Your conversation doesn’t go anywhere because he continues to rehash what has already been.


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A man who is serious about you and your future together is sharing new ideas and asking questions so that he can learn and discover with you. Your conversation is exploratory and positive and has room for growth. He’s asking about your goals and your vision because he doesn’t want to continue to date you if you’re not serious about the same things.

THAT is a guy you should hang onto.


Ravid Yosef is a Dating & Relationship Coach in Los Angeles who works with clients around the world. Learn more of the signs you should look for in a man who is Relationship Material in my free eBook. Read more of my tips and dating advice at


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