6 Things Guys REALLY Want You To Do When You First Start Dating

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Six expectations he has that he won't tell you about.

You’ve met a nice guy and he’s asked you out. You walk into this date and potential relationship filled will expectations; you want him to pick up the bill, open your door, take interest in your life, and so on. His ability to meet these expectations are the make or break for him so you’re watching closely.

Did you know that the men you date have expectations of you as well? They’re not always as obvious, but through my dating journey and the feedback of clients, I’ve learned that there are 6 things guys want you to do but won’t tell you, when you first start dating.

1. Call Or Text Them First Sometimes
Men know that they should pursue you, but in a world full of so many options, it’s nice when you show some actual interest in them. Sending out a simple text asking how their day has been goes a long way in getting you to the top of their list.

2. Ask Them Questions Too
This seems like a simple one. It’s called a conversation! You wouldn’t believe how many guys complain to me about how little interest women take in them during their date. The Art of conversation is huge and will keep you in the game a lot longer.

3. Take Interest In The Things They Love
Whether it’s a sports team, activity or their new favorite band; you should take interest in their interests. Let him ramble on about his quarterback, even if you don’t love that team (or sport all together). He just wants you to listen to him sometimes, just like he has to listen to some story about your friend’s cousin’s daughter.

4. Plan A Date
There’s a lot of pressure put on men to plan dates that are interesting, fun and creative. It’s nice of you to take that on sometimes and introduce him to your favorite things or try something completely new together.

5. Send The Unsolicited Pic
You know how I feel about men asking for Pics without any real context (I hate it) ... I’m not a fan! I’m a fan of sending the unsolicited pic and so are men. You dressed up for a girl’s night? Send it to him. He’ll appreciate that pic more than the one he asked for.

6. No Phone At The Dinner Table
This request is another very obvious requests that we as a culture keep failing at. When you first start dating someone, you want his or her undivided attention. Your instagram feed can wait ladies. Leave your cell in your purse and only take it out when he goes to the bathroom.

Fulfill on these expectations and you will be the keeper he’s been looking for.

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