I find, that at this stage a good coach often recognizes that the
only person who can make a difference in a relationship is the one
who wants to keep it, the one who seeks help. Therefore, why bother
with a destructive party at all. Focus on and give relationship help
to a person who is committed to the relationship, the premise here
being that a) people REACT to each other and b) no one can change anyone else without their consent.
So, if you want to keep the relationship, you first need to see
your relationship in another context by having insights about what
your part was in the relationship breakdown. Once you see that, the
point of view about your relationship changes and your behavior
consequently changes. When your behavior changes, your partner will
react to THAT changed behavior and, voila,
things turn around and a new relationship is created. Therefore, if
you think you may need help with your relationship do not waste time
trying to fix it yourself because if you knew how, your
relationship would not be where it is now.
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I suggest you check out The Relationship Saver first (http://www.RelationshipSaver.org/)
. It may be just all you need to get help with your relationship. In
case your relationship is “just fine, thank you”, you still may want
to read The Gameless Relationship (http://www.GamelessRelationship.com/) if you want to have an awesome one
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