Do women have an agenda?

Do women have an ulte­rior motive when they start a relationship?

Oh, yes they do! Now, let’s see how this works. I under­stand that
it is a gen­er­al­iza­tion, but we are gen­er­ally either men or women,
so this would apply to all of us to a larger or smaller degree whether
we are aware of it or not.

Every­one knows what a man’s agenda is, at least at the begin­ning
of a “roman­tic” rela­tion­ship. It’s sex, loud and clear. We men of
course will not admit it out loud, but that’s what we dream of when we
encounter a woman we “like”. Women know that as well and they use it,
con­sciously or not, to attract men.  So, now women know what we want,
but are we men aware of what and if women want some­thing from us.
Gen­er­ally speak­ing, yes, unless we get “roman­ti­cally” involved,
i.e., fall in love. At that point we’d like to think that we swept them
off their feet.  In other words, we pre­fer to be blind and have our
ego take over. We like to think that a woman was attracted to us for
who we are, because of our per­son­al­ity, because we are funny,
well-built, macho, smart, intel­li­gent, good look­ing, etc. Usu­ally
noth­ing can be fur­ther from the truth.

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Our agenda when we meet a woman we are attracted to is sex; women’s
agenda — whether they know it or not – is a com­mit­ted rela­tion­ship
lead­ing to mar­riage. Women don’t date, only men do. That
all-encompassing motive may have any one of many sub-motives, including:

-    Want­ing to be res­cued from a frus­trat­ing life sit­u­a­tion

-    Want­ing to get away from con­trol­ling par­ents or a dis­sat­is­fy­ing rela­tion­ship with a man.

-    Want­ing to be taken care of, finan­cially and/or emo­tion­ally,
specif­i­cally, want­ing some­one to pro­tect her from the things that
she fears. Those may include being alone and being respon­si­ble for
her­self, mak­ing deci­sions, deal­ing with money mat­ters, or deal­ing
with the every­day stresses and con­flicts of life.

-    Want­ing to be val­i­dated as lov­able and attrac­tive.

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-    Want­ing a baby.

Just as a man trans­forms a woman into an object when it comes to
his dreams about sex, so does a woman uncon­sciously trans­form the man
into an object. She is attracted to him for his poten­tial func­tion in
her life, a motive she will deny because she wants to believe that her
motive is pure love. Her denial is no dif­fer­ent from a man’s denial
when he says, “I really do love you. I’m not just after sex.”