AM I ATTRACTIVE ENOUGH?

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The media want you to be afraid because it serves this consumer society very well … but that is a different topic. The fact is that there are no saber-tooth tigers any more, but we still behave as if they are around every corner. The divorce rate in this country is more than 50% which means that one in two married couples eventually break up. What about all those other relationships? How many of them are happy ones? Maybe we should look a little closer at the way we attract our partners and what it is that we are attracted to. Is it falling in love, or having great sex, or being cool or hot that will bring you a long lasting relationship? What happens when you fall out of love, or are not cool any more because you’ve grown heavier? What if he loses his prestigious position or his car gets stolen and cannot be replaced? “For better or worse, for richer or poorer.” Yes, sure. The first thought is often: “I am out of here!”

Ultimately, it’s good to know that you can neither BE attractive, nor unattractive. Attractiveness is in the eye of the beholder. Someone may or may not be attracted to you and that decision lies in the mind of that person. It is not in the intrinsic you. So, first you need to decide what it is that you want to advertise and who your target market is. Then, what it is that you are selling, and who you want to attract. All this may sound a little crude, but that is exactly how it works. Do you want to have sex, or do you want to sell your personality, or your real and authentic self? You know what they say about how you look or behave “in the morning when you wake up”? If he loves you then he’ll always love you. If she still loves you when you lose your Porsche, or become poor, there is a big chance she will stay with you.

So, on the one hand you can never be attractive enough for some and you will always be very attractive for someone else. Am I attracting the right people for the right reasons is probably the question you may want to ask before you go to a party.

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