Curvy Dating Rule #2: Never lie about who you are & what you look like.
The internet is amazing - I fell in love the moment I typed in "www" for the first time back in the late '90s. But with the internet's awesome-ness, the internet's cloak of deception has also emerged. Any client I work with who wants to dip into online dating must follow my golden rule: never lie about your appearance! If you're dating honestly, you need to be open & clear about who you are because that is the solid foundation of any relationship. If you're lying about how you look, what's going to happen if/when you finally get to meet face-to-face? You'll feel unnecessary anxiety and maybe even rejection -- but not because of how you look necessarily, but because you damaged their trust. Yes, it's scary to be that open, but putting the real you out there can mean only ONE thing: people will also positively respond to the real you and that'll give you a huge boost of confidence!
Curvy Dating Rule #3: You teach others how you want to be treated.
Similar to rule 1, this one needs to go a little deeper into what your boundaries and expectations are in dating. Sometimes overweight women are also push-overs: they think that if they are overly nice and accommodating people will love them more. What ends up happening is you start to feel taken advantage of and that you're just settling, and people won't respect you.
Setting boundaries and being seen as controlling are NOT the same thing. Setting boundaries is grounded in acting with confidence and grace, the other, out of fear of being taken advantage of. But at the end of the day, if you're dating someone who isn't respecting, considerate, or honoring you, it's sending the message that it's okay to settle for less than the best. You deserve way more than that, so let people show you how well they can treat you! Keep reading...