Six years ago, I couldn't get a real date to save my life. I blamed nearly all of that on my size and used weight as a shield to deflect getting rejected. When you're overweight, you come up with all kinds of reasons why dating sucks like, "Guys are such jerks! They won't even LOOK at you if you're not a size 2!" or my favorite, "Whatever, I just want a guy to value ME for ME, not for how I look."
But let's be real here, if you're overweight and single, it can feel like there's no hope in the world for finding a person that madly, truly, deeply loves YOU. Yes, even ALL of you. Dating while being overweight isn't a death sentence to singledom at all. Here are 5 rules for curvy women who want pure dating mastery! And for added intrigue I've personally used all of these rules in my dating life, which led one hell of a man to put a ring on it.
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Curvy Dating Rule #1: Size only matters if you make it matter.
There is nothing more unattractive than leading with your unhappiness. The mind is a marvelous tool when it comes to reality -- if you think your weight is a real factor to your lack of dates, guess what -- you're right! Not because a man told you so, not because COSMO said so -- it comes down to one raw, crippling belief that is holding you back: you're just too fat for love.
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There are many people in the world that think large women are unattractive and there are many men that think skinny women are unattractive. Don't assume your body image hang ups are how others see you. If body acceptance is a real struggle for you, it's important to work through it before you begin dating seriously. You'll just end up bringing your insecurities into the relationship and that's no good for anyone involved. Everyone has insecurities but knowing how to mange and work through your own is a major factor in dating success. Keep reading...
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