Recently, when I was shopping, I came across a notepad with a very cute saying on it. "All I want is world peace and a pedicure."
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All jokes aside, how do you expect to have a great sexual relationship when all you do is fight? Sometimes, men, -and in all fairness, women - like to break up just to make -up, because the make-up sex is so good, of course! However, if you are like most men, what would make you happiest in the long term is a relationship in which you “make love and not war”.
Is relationship drama ruining your sex life? Do you feel like your sex life is non-existent!? If this is the case, there may be something that you aren’t getting about your woman! Correction: Maybe you are missing something about not just your woman, but all women!
The truth is: Chances are, she doesn’t want to sex you if she’s truly annoyed with you. Really, sometimes, she may give in, sometimes she may even want to, but most of the time, she doesn’t want to let you in again-no pun intended-until you’ve made things better!
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My advice to you is simple: Realize that great sex starts with the mind. Do whatever you have to in order to make sure your partner is not frustrated, upset, or angry with you. Turn your wrongs into rights. Don’t be so overeager! When you apologize, your partner will need time to process and let go of her negative emotions. This doesn’t always happen automatically. You may have to prove yourself and allow some time for her desire to build. If you don’t push it, she’ll want you more!
Does your sex or love life need an upgrade? Contact Rachel Russo—Dating, Relationship, & Image Coach for some advice at Rachel@RachelRusso.com. Check out her new site at StatusMakeover.com and subscribe to her weekly Labels & Love newsletter!