While I'm still hoping for my TDH-laid-back-Alpha Male (Do you know him?!) — I have come up with seven things that really, really matter to me in my search for Mr. Right. If you are a single marriage-minded lady, they should probably matter to you too! Drum Roll please ...
My Wish List includes a man:
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With Integrity: My belief is that a man is only as good as his word. If he lies to me once, he could lie to me again. I think a woman should not tolerate any sign of disrespect from her man.
Who Is Loyal: I shared my toys since I was a little girl, but a man is not a play-thing. I refuse to share my man with another woman. Infidelity is my deal breaker of deal breakers. And that "Once a cheater always a cheater" thing? Well, there are exceptions, but in general, you should know that it is not a myth!
Who Wants The Real Thing: I want the healthy, happy, life-time partnership that is complete with friendship, true love, marriage, and kiddies. I don't want the man who just wants the challenge. How about you? If he's just in it for the thrill of the chase, do you really think you are winning? Maybe Charlie would, but I beg to differ!
Who Is Emotionally Mature: Attention to all potential male suitors, I do not work for free! While I used to have a penchant for diamonds in the rough, I am a changed woman who will no longer accept a man with the potential for emotional maturity. If I'm no longer willing to teach a guy I date how to treat a woman and I'm a dating coach — why should you be?
Is Generous: Generosity, according to me, must be across the board. I want a man who is generous with his time, money, and affection. Scrooges need not apply. You should only make a man as important to you as you are to him. If he isn't generous, he shouldn't be important. Period.
Is Supportive: You know those narcissistic guys who want everything to be about them, them, and them? Check, please! I can spot them from a mile away and you should too! If he doesn't care about you, your interests, your work, your hobbies, or your needs on the first few dates, dating him will not be a picnic. Run now!
Has A Good Head On His Shoulders: There are many types of intelligence. One that I really value in a man is common sense. His life needn't be perfect, but he can't be an alcoholic in denial, a man who is irresponsible with finances, reckless with people's emotions, or just plain dumb in everyday situations. Don't you want a man with street smarts and common sense so you can feel like you are protected?
What do you think of my Wish List? Do you have similar desires for your own Mr. Right? Email me at Rachel@RachelRusso.com with comments or your Wish List!
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