- Listen – the importance of listening to each other cannot be stressed enough. How are couples supposed to fulfil each other’s needs if there is no reciprocal listening. This type of listening is not simply hearing words, but involves empathy, sensitivity and understanding of the message that your partner is trying to convey.
- Act – once you have heard and understand what your partner is trying to say, act on it. If its something that involves a change in your relationship, or in a behavior that is bothering your partner, there is no better way to show that you care than by working on changing the issue.
- Appreciate – whenever you see your partner making an effort to listen to you, to act on what you have communicated, and even to communicate well with you, don’t forget to say ‘thank-you’ and to show appreciation for the effort that he/she is putting into your relationship. Wouldn’t you be happy if your partner did the same for you?
Try these tips as a first step to improving the communication in your relationship and I’d love to hear how it goes!