What Women's Sex Noises Mean

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Are the sex sounds women make voluntary or involuntary?

Not for those who easily blush, this was the actual subject of a recently published research study.

Researchers (Brewer & Colin, 2011) actually refer to sex noises and orgasm screams in much more staid, scientific language: copulatory vocalizations. The question they wanted to answer was whether the noises a woman makes during sex are voluntary or a reflex, or consequence, of orgasm.

 

You have to wonder where researchers come up with these questions…

The researchers were interested in exploring the relationship between sexual vocalizations and orgasm. Their primary question was whether such vocalizations were an involuntary reflex of orgasm (or associated with orgasm), or whether they were independent of the act of reaching climax.

They recruited 71 sexually active, heterosexual women from the local community with a mean age of 22 years old, and administered a questionnaire asking the subjects about their vocalizations during sex.

Consistent with prior research, women most often reported reaching orgasm during masturbation or self-manipulation, and secondly by manipulation by their partner. Oral sex was the third most likely way to achieve orgasm, followed by the way women least frequently achieve orgasm — penetration by a man. Women in the study reported they most often experienced an orgasm during foreplay.

What about vocalizations? Did they most often appear around a woman’s own orgasm?

Perhaps surprising to some, the answer was “No.” The researchers found that a woman’s vocalizations occurred around the man’s orgasm — most often just before or simultaneously with male ejaculation. The researchers theorize why:

These data together clearly demonstrate a dissociation of the timing of women experiencing orgasm and making copulatory vocalizations and indicate that there is at least an element of these responses that are under conscious control, providing women with an opportunity to manipulate male behavior to their advantage.

According to this study, whether they know it or not, women appear to vocalize during sex not to express their own enjoyment so much as to help the man reach climax.

This is in keeping with the idea that we all have sexual scripts in our head of both our idealized sexual encounter, as well as what we believe our partners want:

Both men’s and women’s perceptions of their partners’ ideal duration of foreplay and intercourse were found to be more strongly related to their own sexual stereotypes than to their partners’ self-reported sexual desires, suggesting that people rely on sexual stereotypes when estimating their partners’ ideal sexual scripts (Miller & Byers, 2004).

Maybe these vocalizations are a part of that idealized sexual script, or at least done in response to what women believe their male partner wants.

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission.
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John M. Grohol

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Dr. John Grohol is a mental health expert and founder of Psych Central. He has been writing about online behavior, mental health and psychology issues, and the intersection of technology and psychology since 1992.

Location: Newburyport, MA
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