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Sustainable Marriages = Satisfied Individuals


Research tells us that sustainable marriages are more possible when each individual is satisfied.

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Some emerging research suggests that the satisfaction of each individual in the relationship may be just as important as other, more traditional factors such as communication skills and how a couple argues.

More and more, researchers are finding that happy marriages may be based in how much the relationship supports each individual in their own learning and self-growth. After all, a stagnant relationship isn’t exactly fertile ground for happiness. When we grow individually in a marriage, we also grow as a couple.

This effect isn’t done in solitude — it occurs when your partner helps open your eyes to new experiences and learn new things. That’s why trying something you’ve never done before on a date is exciting! It expands your horizons, and helps introduce you to a new experience.

So how does being interested in your own self-growth help your marriage?

While the notion of self-expansion may sound inherently self-serving, it can lead to stronger, more sustainable relationships, Dr. Lewandowski says. “If you’re seeking self-growth and obtain it from your partner, then that puts your partner in a pretty important position,” he explains. “And being able to help your partner’s self-expansion would be pretty pleasing to yourself.”

Now you’re curious — how sustainable is your long-term relationship or marriage? It’s easy to find out — take the sustainable marriage quiz now.


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