Online Dating: Increasing Your Chances for Love
By John M. Grohol. Posted on .
Think of it this way: what if, within the next 24 hours, you could be in a room with a dozen or so eligible and compatible singles of the opposite sex? And you could meet with each of them one-on-one? These would be people who not only share your personal values, but have a great deal in common with you.
And what if you would easily interact with each one of the single people in this room to learn a bit about who they are – not just their preferences, but their personality? You could explore, for example, how you share sense of humor. And what if you knew that each of them was just as interested as you are in finding a person to date? No sleuthing or guesswork involved. They wouldn’t be in this room if they were not looking for love.
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Would you be interested in finding a room like this? If you’re like most, you would. What single person wouldn’t? Entering this room would instantly and dramatically increase your chances for finding a date worth keeping. And that’s exactly what dating online does for you and your love life. Let’s say this straight: your chances of meeting compatible singles are hugely increased by dating online.
Why? Because a competent online dating site literally brings the single population to you. Finding a date is no longer a scavenger hunt with your heart. You simply consider the various options that are literally at your fingertips. Your computer keyboard is all that stands between you and finding a date.
Expanding Your Dating Horizons
After too much dissatisfaction and defeat with the more traditional dating route, or lack thereof, Jennifer finally gave into dating online. “I eventually realized I had little to lose and a lot to gain. Besides, I wanted to put a stop to dealing with blurred lines,” she said. “I’m tired of asking: ‘Are we friends? Or are we dating?’ Online, I can do three dates a week with three different guys if I want to. In my regular life, I don’t think I even meet three new guys in a week, let alone a single guy that would possibly like to date me.”
Jennifer also learned that dating online allows her to set her own parameters on whether she would like to consider finding a date outside of her hometown. She decided that an hour and a half drive was a small price to pay for not just finding a date, but the love of her life. And that’s exactly where she found him. Todd, a manager of a sales team for a pharmaceutical company, had never been to Jennifer’s town before he met her online. But as Jennifer eventually said, “We got to the point where both of our cars could almost drive that stretch of highway between our homes automatically.”
The point is that whether you live in a large city or a small town, dating online allows you to expand your dating horizons – and, thus, your chances for finding true love. After all, there have been countless couples living across the country from each other, not to mention living across town, who would have never found each other had it not been for dating online.
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Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott have developed an online dating website called MyRightSomeone.com. Les and Leslie publish an article periodically that discusses different aspects of dating relationships.
