I learned a few things on this roller coaster two-year journey:
• Advice, unless it is asked for, is not helpful
• When a person is in crisis, emotions can change from day to day and moment to moment – it’s helpful to be a “non-anxious presence” just to walk alongside
• We are unable to fix another person’s problems
• Gentleness and tenderness are preferred over harshness and task-focus (isn’t this always the case?!)
• Affection and physical touch can be reassuring and comforting
• Every day life has moments – no matter how small - that can be and should be celebrated
• Living with gratitude and grace keeps everything in perspective
• We all need meaning, purpose and direction in our lives – and sometimes it’s hard to find.
Finally, after two years, Greg gained vocational clarity, we gained clarity on our future and we transitioned out of pastoral ministry. We now have a new calling - to serve people through Directions, Inc. as they lead their organizations, relationships and lives. We continue to share a passion for helping couples enrich their relationships through Better Marriages.
Last night I was on a flight home after a long weekend. For the third time I was reading Blackbird Singing in the Dead of Night: What to Do When God Won’t Answer. My row mate asked me about what I was reading. I handed her the book and told her how much I was enjoying it. I looked away and felt a smile playing on the corners of m lips. She asked if I knew the author. I looked her in the eye and replied, “I’m sleeping with him.”
Life is interesting. Sometimes, it turns out, the journey is the destination in disguise.
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