Sex and massage are a perfect pairing. Like peanut butter and chocolate. Bread and butter. Both individual elements are made more delicious by the presence of the other! Sex and massage go so well together, we believe they should be understood as an inseparable pair! As sex educators, we believe learning massage is the #1 most essential thing you can do to improve your sex life. Learn how to give a great massage and your sex life will be changed forever. You’ll discover more pleasure, more desire and more intimacy with every stroke.
Ultimately, sex and massage are both about touch: the magic that happens when human skin meets human skin. The foundation of great sex is touch, the ability to give pleasure to your lover as you use your hands, mouth and entire body to stimulate their skin. We often forget this basic fact in all the cultural confusion about sex, and to great cost. Many of us are unsure of how to touch our lover for maximum pleasure and feel less than confident with our touch skills. Most of us don’t include full body touch as much as we could during sex, leaving most of the body under stimulated. Without massage, sex is simply not as fulfilling as it can be. The human body craves touch, and learning massage is the best way to learn how to pleasure every inch of your lover’s body.
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Unless you go to massage school and invest thousands of dollars and several months to learning professional massage, where do you learn how to touch? This most basic of skills is never taught in schools, and so most of us just do our best and fumble through lovemaking.
I discovered massage after landing in San Francisco after college. While working as a sex educator and teaching sex workshops, I was intrigued by massage and signed up for a professional course. After getting trained in massage, I discovered that the way I approached lovemaking totally changed. I was able to offer my lovers long, luxurious touch and was totally confident in my ability to give them pleasure. I could help my lovers unwind after a long day with a foot massage and noticed that it often helped them get in the mood for sex. And when I brought my massage skills to how I touched my lover’s most sensitive parts, I discovered that my hands knew just what to do to create profound pleasure and powerful orgasms. Then I started dating Charlotte, another highly skilled massage therapist, and I was quickly convinced that massage skills are one of the most powerful erotic skills out there. I had been a sex educator for years and never encountered a technique more effective at creating pleasure!