Sensuality is the foundation of your sexuality. In order to get erotically turned on, you must be aware of your senses and all the potential pleasure that surrounds you in every moment. In our wired world, we often focus on so much digital stimulation that we forget to tune into the physical, sensual world around us. To become more erotically alive, take some time to focus on enjoying the full potential of your sensuality.
All of your senses can be sources of erotic pleasure. Some of us experience more charge, more arousal from one sense above the rest. It is traditionally thought that men are more turned on by visual stimulation, and women are more aroused by touch.
Truly, we are all sensual individuals, and can experience arousal from all of our senses.
It is useful to pay attention to your own arousal patterns and notice what turns you on most quickly. Is visual stimulation crucial to your arousal, or is it just the same with the lights out? Does the sound of your partner's heavy breathing give you a buzz? Or perhaps you notice the unique smell of your lover every time you brush by one another? Noticing which of your senses are turned on can help you cultivate more pleasure in your life. Meanwhile, you can choose to develop the senses that you don't pay much attention to.
If you become aware of your senses in your day to day life, you will have more erotic pleasure available to you. If you realize that you don't experience much eroticism from your sense of smell, for example, you can choose to notice more smells in your world. Literally, take the time to stop and smell the roses! Smell your food before you eat. If you have a lover, drink in their own unique smell.
Ways to Cultivate Your Senses Every Day
Sight: Notice the vibrancy of colors around you. Look for interesting textures in every day scenery. Find the beauty in ordinary people. Visit an art museum or gallery.
Smell: Pause and take deep inhalations of your food. Smell your lover, without deodorant on. Notice the subtle smells of the outdoors. Buy yourself fragrant lilies and fill your room with their sweet smell.
Taste: Notice the taste of your lover's kiss. Slow down when you eat and savor each bite. Try to distinguish subtle flavors in your foods. Drink chai and name each flavor you taste - cinnamon, cardamom, black pepper. . .
Sound: Listen for birds, no matter where you live. Listen to the sound of your own breath - breathe deeply and notice the rhythm. Sit in a public place with your eyes closed and listen to the sounds around you. Paint a visual picture based on what you are hearing. Try to distinguish as many different layers of sound as you can.