May is National Masturbation Month! Here's how to celebrate!
Happy Masturbation Month! That’s right, May is National Masturbation Month. Get ready to celebrate self pleasuring all month long. National Masturbation Month was started in 1995 by the sex educators at Good Vibrations, in response to the controversy surrounding the firing of Surgeon General Joycelyn Elders, who infamously recommended that masturbation be taught as part of sex education curriculum.
Masturbation is indeed one of the safest forms of sexual intimacy, and is an essential part of your sexuality. Masturbation puts you in control of your own pleasure, teaches you about your arousal patterns and can be a powerful tool for relaxation and stress relief. So take the month of May to recommit to your self-pleasuring practice and take your solo pleasures to the next level. Here are a few ideas to get you started:
Masturbate in a new position. If you have always masturbated in the same way, shift it up by switching positions and trying new masturbation techniques. Every time you switch position you change how you stimulate yourself and unlock new kinds of sensations. Try touching yourself in a few different positions, allowing your hips to move and your spine to flex. Notice how movement and position change the kind of arousal you feel.
Fantasize! Allow your erotic imagination to run wild and fuel your arousal. Give yourself permission to make your erotic fantasies bolder and bigger. Go over the top. In the realm of fantasy, anything is possible, there are no limits. So take the threads of your most common fantasies and heighten them. Do you fantasize about rough sex? Make it even more intense, even a little scary and notice your response. Do your fantasies include luxurious locations? Allow yourself to fantasize about making love in the clouds, or deep underwater. Allow your imagination to roam and see where it takes you! Need help getting started? The Fantasy Method is an interactive guide into your erotic imagination. Tap into the full potential of your fantasies to discover more about yourself as a sexual creature!
Add New Sensations: Grab household objects with interesting textures and head to bed: think about things like a silky scarf, a bowl of ice cubes, a hairbrush. Use these unusual objects with new textures to stimulate your skin. Notice what kinds of sensations feel most arousing to you, and what parts of your body are most sensitive. Give yourself time to explore your entire body as an erogenous zone. You can also experiment with new sex toys, or use the toys you already have in new ways!
Have a Conversation: Talk to one or more of your friends about masturbation. Share your early experiences with masturbation, funny stories about your teenage years, how you feel about masturbation in a relationship, any techniques you highly recommend. All of us, to one extent or another, carry shame and guilt about masturbation. Having open conversations with your friends is one of the quickest ways to dissolve shame, and give others permission to enjoy their sexuality more fully.
Try a Masturbation Marathon: Every year Good Vibrations and The Center for Sex and Culture hold a “Masturbate-a-Thon” to raise money and celebrate the pleasures of self-touch. You don’t need to fly to San Francisco to join in on the fun. Try setting aside an entire hour (or two!) for self-pleasuring. Give yourself a long slow warm up, then build up your arousal for as long as you can. Try experiencing the pleasures of multiple orgasm, as you experience arousal over a long period of time. Enjoyed yourself? Do it again in a week or two and try to break your own record! It can be challenging to set aside so much time for self-pleasuring. But that is part of the point - openly and unabashedly declaring that you are worth it and that you deserve lots of pleasure!
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