4. Ask for what you want. Most lovers are more than willing to serve but many get stuck on knowing just what to do. If you can get specific about your desires for more foreplay, you may find you have a more than willing partner. Take some time to get clear about what your body is craving. Do you want more featherlight touch all over your body? Do you want to spend more time kissing? Or do you want to heat things up before sex with an erotic spanking?
Don't assume your lover knows what you want. Ask for it directly. Try saying something like "You know what would really get me in the mood tonight? I want to feel you kiss me all over, biting me lightly as I go. Don't stop until I tell you to." Receiving direct requests from your lover can be incredibly hot. Try to cultivate a relationship where you can both make requests for what you are craving so you can better serve one another.
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5. Tease it out. Foreplay doesn't have to stop once arousal builds. Keep it going by teasing your lover, allowing their desire to build and build until it can barely be contained. Many men rush towards intercourse because they don't trust their ability to stay hard and sustain their pleasure. For men, a great handjob can be a delicious way to learn how to stay suspended in arousal without climaxing.
Develop your handjob techniques so you can bring him to the edge of orgasm and then suspend him there, prolonging his arousal and helping him learn how to stay hard longer. This will give you both more time to build arousal before you get to intercourse. Foreplay can be the hottest part of making love, especially if you have the skills to keep one another in high states of arousal for long periods of time, so you don't feel the need to rush towards the finish line.
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