Step 3: Make Specific Requests. This is where your dirty talk becomes excellent erotic communication. Once you are comfortable describing what is happening, start adding simple requests. Try saying things like “I love how that feels, can you go a little slower?” or “You are in just the right spot, try moving a little faster for me baby” Most lovers are incredibly generous when it comes to giving pleasure to your partner, so your dirty talk can become a very clear guide to what you desire, steering your partner towards giving you more pleasure. In exchange, be willing to hear your lover as you give them pleasure. The ability to hear a request and adjust what you are doing is one of the sexual skills that take you from being good lover to an amazing lover.
Once you have mastered these three steps, you can be more confident when you want to talk dirty in bed. And "dirty" is a very relative term. For some, just making noise is enough to enhance their arousal. For others, getting really nasty with words is a huge turn-on. Use the words that are hot for you, and keep it authentic!
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