The clitoris is the most sensitive part of the female sexual system. The external part of the clitoris, just like the penis, has both a shaft and a head. You can stimulate the shaft of the clitoris as a warm-up to more direct touch of the clitoral head. The clitoris has about 6,000 to 8,000 nerve endings—more than any other part of either the male or female body. It is super-sensitive and this sensitivity ranges dramatically from woman to woman, so men need to learn about how their partners like to be stimulated. If her clitoris is too sensitive for direct touch, try using the labia as a sheath through which you can stimulate the clitoris. If your clitoris gets hypersensitive after orgasm, this is also a great technique to use while you are exploring multiple orgasms.
The clitoris is not just an external structure. The clitoris extends deep into the body and branches down into the labia. The part of the clitoris you can see is just the tip of the iceberg! The legs of the clitoris extend down and back into the body, shaped like a wishbone with the clitoral shaft up top in the center. The clitoral legs contain lots of sensitive nerve endings, so don't ignore them! One of the best ways to amp up female pleasure is to stimulate the internal structures of the clitoris. First, experiment with using deeper pressure on the labia to activate the legs of the clitoris. Then, focus on stimulating the internal part of the clitoral shaft. The pelvic bone is situated perfectly to stimulate the internal part of the clitoris. Once you are already aroused, explore using deep pressure to locate the pelvic bone, then use circular and pulsing motions to grind the internal shaft of the clitoris against the bone. Talk about pleasure from the inside out!
Use it or lose it! If you do not use your clitoris, you can experience clitoral atrophy. This is a medical condition where the clitoris will retreat into the body or the hood will fuse closed, covering the head and shaft of the clitoris. The clitoris, like all other tissues in the body, relies on blood flow to stay healthy. Keep your sexual anatomy healthy and experience the many health benefits of orgasm by staying sexually active and alive. With or without a partner in your life, masturbation is an important part of self-care. Take time every few days to touch yourself and bring yourself to orgasm. Orgasms boost the immune system, support a healthy sleep cycle, and help keep your hormones balanced. So go ahead, give yourself a hand and then pay attention to all the pleasurable side effects of staying in touch with the queen of your sexual system, the mighty clitoris.
This week, we challenge you to celebrate your clitoris and express gratitude for the immense pleasure it can bring you. Then keep up the good work and continue to celebrate and enjoy the full pleasurable potential of your sexual system—alone or with your partner. The clitoris is a central part of the experience of female sexuality and only by getting intimate with it, will you begin to fully enjoy what is erotically possible for you.
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