3 Ways Kinky Sex Is Like Spicy Food

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3 Ways Kinky Sex Is Like Spicy Food
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Start with just the activities that most interest you and know that you have a lifetime to slowly explore the range of what is possible. The more slowly you explore, the better. Slowly adding new kinds of erotic energy and new activities will help you get an authentic sense of what you like and what you want.

3. Your own recipe. You may have noticed that no two curries are the same. In many parts of the world, every household has their own unique curry recipe. Curries are a blend of many different spices, a symphony of flavors that complement and enhance one another. Every erotic encounter is likewise a unique blend of ingredients, and no two will be the same. How you blend erotic energies, sex acts and power dimensions will give you a huge range of experiences. Think about an erotic spanking, for example. A spanking can be a tender and sweet experience, offered with lots of gentle caresses and loving words. Or, a spanking can be an intense, rough experience mixed with lots of hair pulling and name calling.

Unless you get specific about what you want and start communicating with your partner about not only what you want to do but how you want to do it, you are leaving your erotic experience up to chance. Rather than pull a generic spice blend off the shelf, take control of your sexual experience and create your own unique mix of flavor that works for you. Get clear about both what you want to explore and the erotic energies you want to bring to your sex life.

Do you want to be worshipped or humiliated? Do you want to feel slutty or sensual? Do you want to be overpowered or seduced? Think about erotic energy as an array of spices, and take the time to find the blends you love the most. Don't know what you want? Our book The Fantasy Method is an interactive guide into your erotic imagination and will allow you to get clear and specific about your authentic desires.

If you are exploring kinky sex, erotic spanking is a fabulous way to get started. The Pleasure Mechanics Guide to Erotic Spanking walks you through the process of creating a highly personalized spanking experience that meets your unique desires. Think of it as a cookbook for your sex life, a guide to creating a delicious erotic experience that is uniquely your own, with just the right amount of spice!

Ready to experience your full erotic potential? Visit PleasureMechanics.com for videos and ebooks offering proven techniques for more sexual pleasure. Learn couples massage, erotic touch techniques and strategies for a healthier, happier relationships.

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