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The Way To Relating: Sadness Versus Chronic Depression

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The Way To Relating: Sadness Versus Chronic Depression
Pay Attention to Your First Feeling

Psychological health is synonymous with maturity. A chronic, fixed emotional state lacks maturity. Again, it is fixed and unmoving and stuck in perceiving an unfair and unjust world. Once we get to the chronic state we act out in ways that normal, rational people would not react. To pay attention to your first feeling, and to see the simplicity of sadness makes things much less complex and much more relatable. So you feel sad…it is ok. It is ok to feel sad. Find your way to express this. An emotional state that is chronic is one of seeing yourself as victimized and hopeless. This narrow view does not promote creativity or the maturity to use the sadness for growth and opportunity.

Solution: Nothing is happening to you, it all happening for you. Start to ask yourself forward-moving questions such as: why do I feel sad? What can I do to help this emotion pass through? How can I let myself experience this emotion? What can I learn from this sadness to help my personal growth? What is the opportunity I can get from this feeling? How can I express this simple emotion in a way that someone else could relate to me? If you have experienced a death…what books or support groups could you search out to help you process your sadness in a way where your growth and insight are deepened? If you have lost a job, what resources have you researched to get your life back on track?

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Little Life Message: Sadness/Grief is a natural emotion. Every emotional response we have is designed to bring us into a deeper and deeper understanding of ourselves and others. Understanding the natural emotions will teach empathy. Empathy is a sign of psychological maturity and health. Power on!
 

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